There's been a lot of posts lately about being Alpha and Beta, Nice Guy and Jerk, etc. Point being you guys are obsessed with these (PUA) terms. I use a few of these terms a bit myself, so simply using them isn't what really bother me all that much. The extremes some posters have been (are) taking it to bothers me. I see so many posters doing nothing but complaining and b!tching about how they're not tall enough, how they're not ripped enough, how women hate Indians (or any other non-white race for that matter), how they don't look enough like Channing Tatum, how they're not rich enough, how whatever (a leader, alpha, attractive, etc) is something you're born as or is in your genetics and how you will never be it, or even how they're not Alpha enough. What's worse is seeing these same posters get to the point where they start focusing on what they aren't.
No, you may not ever be 6'10. You may not ever have a 10" d!ck. You may not ever be rich enough, Alpha enough, jerk-ish enough, etc. You may not ever be whatever enough for her. But who cares?
For starters, this shouldn't be about her in the first place. Every improvement you make, every step you take towards that end-goal, every step you take towards being "Alpha" should be about you. Second, there could be any number of reasons why you couldn't get her. This one you may not have been rich enough for, that one you may not have been bold enough for, or you may not have waited long enough, or maybe you rushed, or maybe she just didn't like you. Let me reiterate: with every single individual girl that rejected you, there could be a hundred different reasons why she rejected you.
The point is: it shouldn't matter. She rejected you (even if you never really tried) and that's that. Of course, you can look at why she rejected you for learning purposes. You should. It will help you out in the long run. However, when you do:
Look first for recurring themes in each attempt. I've said it a few times already in this post, but there could be a hundred different reasons why this specific girl rejected you and a hundred still different reasons why the next one did. But if you can identify mistakes you made during both attempts you'll be golden.
Second, don't get into the mindset of "I'm not whatever enough and never will be, and I accept that". That's a bvllsh!t excuse that only serves to dig your own grave. Not being Alpha enough, not being a natural born leader, not having the genetics to be attractive, etc are not things you should be accepting as "truths". Never accept defeat. The only thing holding you back is you.
Stop worrying about what you aren't. Focus on what you are. The (US) Marines have something they call Leadership Principles. As the name suggests, these are what Marines believe make a good leader, and one of them is "Know yourself and seek self-improvement". It's always been the one that has stuck to me. Address and acknowledge your weaknesses. But don't obsess about them. If it's something you can fix, work on it. If not, complaining and b!tching about how you "will never be it" isn't helping anything. It just makes you insecure. Accept what you can't change and move on. The biggest problem a lot of you have is your inner-game is still as bad as it was when you started. You can work on cold approaches, being the life of the party, looking confident, and acting arrogant, as much as you want, but if inside you are insecure, needy, clingy, or you don't have an abundance mentality, sooner or later you are going to fvck up.
No, you may not ever be 6'10. You may not ever have a 10" d!ck. You may not ever be rich enough, Alpha enough, jerk-ish enough, etc. You may not ever be whatever enough for her. But who cares?
For starters, this shouldn't be about her in the first place. Every improvement you make, every step you take towards that end-goal, every step you take towards being "Alpha" should be about you. Second, there could be any number of reasons why you couldn't get her. This one you may not have been rich enough for, that one you may not have been bold enough for, or you may not have waited long enough, or maybe you rushed, or maybe she just didn't like you. Let me reiterate: with every single individual girl that rejected you, there could be a hundred different reasons why she rejected you.
The point is: it shouldn't matter. She rejected you (even if you never really tried) and that's that. Of course, you can look at why she rejected you for learning purposes. You should. It will help you out in the long run. However, when you do:
Look first for recurring themes in each attempt. I've said it a few times already in this post, but there could be a hundred different reasons why this specific girl rejected you and a hundred still different reasons why the next one did. But if you can identify mistakes you made during both attempts you'll be golden.
Second, don't get into the mindset of "I'm not whatever enough and never will be, and I accept that". That's a bvllsh!t excuse that only serves to dig your own grave. Not being Alpha enough, not being a natural born leader, not having the genetics to be attractive, etc are not things you should be accepting as "truths". Never accept defeat. The only thing holding you back is you.
Stop worrying about what you aren't. Focus on what you are. The (US) Marines have something they call Leadership Principles. As the name suggests, these are what Marines believe make a good leader, and one of them is "Know yourself and seek self-improvement". It's always been the one that has stuck to me. Address and acknowledge your weaknesses. But don't obsess about them. If it's something you can fix, work on it. If not, complaining and b!tching about how you "will never be it" isn't helping anything. It just makes you insecure. Accept what you can't change and move on. The biggest problem a lot of you have is your inner-game is still as bad as it was when you started. You can work on cold approaches, being the life of the party, looking confident, and acting arrogant, as much as you want, but if inside you are insecure, needy, clingy, or you don't have an abundance mentality, sooner or later you are going to fvck up.
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