What if a guy made a video and said "Men lower your expectations. Not every girl is 5'8 Sharon Stone lookalike. Girls are fat, girls are ugly, girls don't do anything, girls aren't virgins."
Guys here would flip.
I mean lets be real for a minute. It is easier to spend 30 bucks or 50 bucks or 99 bucks or 150 bucks on the
"one secret technique that will make any woman become your love slave", which is some variety of what so many of the PUA people are peddling. The female dating experts sell it too, don't get me wrong. Maybe I'm in the wrong business. So guys spend the money and get a silly volume that doesn't tell them anything different than what they could learn here if they would get real, be honest and make an effort. They would rather believe the fantasy or be angry at the fantasy. That's easier than being accountable. Accountability requires effort over time. The PUA stuff sells and guys buy the stuff so it's all good. I'm pointing out the obvious I should think.
Reality is a bummer for lots of people. Don't blow up their fantasy too. That's so mean.
what is "lots to offer?"
Is it anything that sells? Is it money, education, social status, height, genetics, job, looks? Combination of them all?
This is a harder question to answer because it depends on what a particular individual is seeking from the marketplace.
I'd say in a very general sense that for women it is the following:
Beautiful, slender, feminine, kind, intelligent, supportive, emotionally stable, ability to be a good mother, helpful, young, traditionally minded regarding gender roles and relatively innocent. In different segments of the market it changes to a degree. I find men like me because I am beautiful, slender, intelligent, fun, experienced at life, sweet, financially self-sufficient, educated, supportive, emotionally stable, strong character, emotionally intelligent, socially adroit/well connected and willing to fulfill a traditional feminine role. The market changes a little bit based on whether or not creation of a family is a goal as far as what men most want in a woman. Obviously I'm on the older no more children side of the marketplace.
For men in a general sense it is the following:
Ambition or success results (sliding scale based on age), looks, education, intelligence, financial means (again on a sliding scale based on age), status, influence, protective, masculinity, leadership ability, and personality. For me character would also be important, but it's not on every list.
As a man OR as a woman you can't show up JUST with looks and expect to cut it in the high value marketplace. You gotta be a much more complete package than that.
