First off I will like to say I have weaned myself off this board for advice for a long time. I didn't like the direction this board was going and I miss the old guys here I used to respect. But I'm feeling quite bad now so I will appreciate any comments and opinions on this.
I met this girl and slowly got to know her better. She is obviously attracted to me and she gave many indications and even verbalized her interest. We went out a few times. Problem is? She has a bf.
I made it clear that I wouldn't want to be too close to her if she's gonna have a bf while maintaining that I am interested in her. So I proposed we go on a date one last time to tie up our lose ends and settle things. She of course isn't sound happy about it and asked me to be patient as eventually there might be a reason for a to break up with her bf.
Then I asked for a movie date and as it happened she already planned to watch it with her bf. So before the movie I (childishly and immaturely) insisted that we watch the movie I wanted to watch. I kept going like a broken record and even went into a whiny tone like a child pouting. Well it wore her patience thin and eventually she got mad.
Good thing is later she got over it and started talking to me again and saying she wanted a make up some day. But she doesn't seem too excited anymore which is to be expected.
And after this she became increasingly less interested in her tone when she talks to me and kept insisting she is busy when I asked her if she was ever free. Eventually I got mad with that and I told her to stop jerking me around and tell me if she isn't interested and I'll be done. Of course she got pissed about it and started a silent treatment ignoring everything I have to say and even avoiding me in real life.
Well I just ignored her silent treatment and got on with my life, doing my work and dating other chicks. But recently we had to see each other for some classes so I saw she's still avoiding me. I sent her a text apologizing for my past behavior and she says she's over that. Then I texted her that I talked to her friend and decided we could be friends if she wanted which she she ignored. Later she went ahead and read the chat log I had with her friend without permission and she used some of the things i said there to get angry with me. I apologized if I did insult her and asked her if she wants to make up for it and be friends which she ignored.
Well now I still have to see her for some classes I hate it when I get ignored. So guys what do you think of this situation and what will you do about it?
I will appreciate nice friendly and constructive advice. Like what would you have done and what would you do now.
I obviously have behaved very unDJish at points and ignored massive red flags. I know so don't rub it in. Also I have been doing the standard plate spinning, hanging out, keeping busy and living my life which is great, but I will still like to undo this knot in my stomach. And yes NEXT is probably the best option but I will wonder if there is an amicable solution to this.
I don't want to see anyone giving strict lectures and rubbing the situation in here because I know I messed up already and probably will not let myself step into this if I could. Many new posters here like to take advantage and rub in the situation to show their superiority hoping to gain some respect on the boards. One of the reasons why I got turned off. Hopefully I won't get any of that yeah?
I met this girl and slowly got to know her better. She is obviously attracted to me and she gave many indications and even verbalized her interest. We went out a few times. Problem is? She has a bf.
I made it clear that I wouldn't want to be too close to her if she's gonna have a bf while maintaining that I am interested in her. So I proposed we go on a date one last time to tie up our lose ends and settle things. She of course isn't sound happy about it and asked me to be patient as eventually there might be a reason for a to break up with her bf.
Then I asked for a movie date and as it happened she already planned to watch it with her bf. So before the movie I (childishly and immaturely) insisted that we watch the movie I wanted to watch. I kept going like a broken record and even went into a whiny tone like a child pouting. Well it wore her patience thin and eventually she got mad.
Good thing is later she got over it and started talking to me again and saying she wanted a make up some day. But she doesn't seem too excited anymore which is to be expected.
And after this she became increasingly less interested in her tone when she talks to me and kept insisting she is busy when I asked her if she was ever free. Eventually I got mad with that and I told her to stop jerking me around and tell me if she isn't interested and I'll be done. Of course she got pissed about it and started a silent treatment ignoring everything I have to say and even avoiding me in real life.
Well I just ignored her silent treatment and got on with my life, doing my work and dating other chicks. But recently we had to see each other for some classes so I saw she's still avoiding me. I sent her a text apologizing for my past behavior and she says she's over that. Then I texted her that I talked to her friend and decided we could be friends if she wanted which she she ignored. Later she went ahead and read the chat log I had with her friend without permission and she used some of the things i said there to get angry with me. I apologized if I did insult her and asked her if she wants to make up for it and be friends which she ignored.
Well now I still have to see her for some classes I hate it when I get ignored. So guys what do you think of this situation and what will you do about it?
I will appreciate nice friendly and constructive advice. Like what would you have done and what would you do now.
I obviously have behaved very unDJish at points and ignored massive red flags. I know so don't rub it in. Also I have been doing the standard plate spinning, hanging out, keeping busy and living my life which is great, but I will still like to undo this knot in my stomach. And yes NEXT is probably the best option but I will wonder if there is an amicable solution to this.
I don't want to see anyone giving strict lectures and rubbing the situation in here because I know I messed up already and probably will not let myself step into this if I could. Many new posters here like to take advantage and rub in the situation to show their superiority hoping to gain some respect on the boards. One of the reasons why I got turned off. Hopefully I won't get any of that yeah?