Well, I do have to say, I'm pretty good at giving advice to people here on this board. But I do have to say, sometimes it's VERY hard to take your own advice. I think it has to due with the fact that no emotion is involved when you're helping someone out...
Anyways, after tonight, I realized quite a few things that most of us fall prey to. Me, I understand one-itis... and I try everything in my power to stay away from it. Being out here in Japan, it's kinda hard... but I'm gettin better, meeting more women, having a couple "backup" plans, etc.
But tonight, I got killed. I got jealous over a girl I had only spent one night with. And we danced the entire time. No rapport whatsoever, besides kino rapport... (getting her to feel safe being around me, basically.) Yes, granted, she was pretty good looking, and seemed like she would be worth getting to know due to her shyness (I don't know why I'm attracted to this...)
This goes a bit deeper than most one-itis situations, though. I've had a friend, who I stopped talking to for quite some time, who decided to tell me that he was going to meet this chick that my other friend introduced me to. The reason I stopped talking to him is because there have been about 3 or 4 possible relationships that had gotten messed up because of his intervention. He's not a teamplayer... if he is jealous, I cannot understand why, but for some reason, he feels as though he has to f*ck up as many possible relationships I can have with women. Maybe it's because he thinks I f'ed up most of his... even though it was mostly him getting caught in his own lies that screwed things up, and he's simply trying to get me back. Whatever...
The moral of the story is, don't over-react over stupid ****, especially when it involves a "so-called" friend. What I should have done in my situation was told him the back the f*ck off, and find his own females to get involved with, instead of constantly trying to get involved in mine. Did I? No... the emotion got in the way, and I tried to play it off like I didn't know and didn't really care. Knowing this guy, I all but firmly believe that I would be the better choice.
Any of you been in similar situations? How have you handled it? I know it's one thing dealing with guys you don't know... that **** is easy. But a close personal friend who tried to screw you over, I think is a bit more difficult to handle.
Anyways, after tonight, I realized quite a few things that most of us fall prey to. Me, I understand one-itis... and I try everything in my power to stay away from it. Being out here in Japan, it's kinda hard... but I'm gettin better, meeting more women, having a couple "backup" plans, etc.
But tonight, I got killed. I got jealous over a girl I had only spent one night with. And we danced the entire time. No rapport whatsoever, besides kino rapport... (getting her to feel safe being around me, basically.) Yes, granted, she was pretty good looking, and seemed like she would be worth getting to know due to her shyness (I don't know why I'm attracted to this...)
This goes a bit deeper than most one-itis situations, though. I've had a friend, who I stopped talking to for quite some time, who decided to tell me that he was going to meet this chick that my other friend introduced me to. The reason I stopped talking to him is because there have been about 3 or 4 possible relationships that had gotten messed up because of his intervention. He's not a teamplayer... if he is jealous, I cannot understand why, but for some reason, he feels as though he has to f*ck up as many possible relationships I can have with women. Maybe it's because he thinks I f'ed up most of his... even though it was mostly him getting caught in his own lies that screwed things up, and he's simply trying to get me back. Whatever...
The moral of the story is, don't over-react over stupid ****, especially when it involves a "so-called" friend. What I should have done in my situation was told him the back the f*ck off, and find his own females to get involved with, instead of constantly trying to get involved in mine. Did I? No... the emotion got in the way, and I tried to play it off like I didn't know and didn't really care. Knowing this guy, I all but firmly believe that I would be the better choice.
Any of you been in similar situations? How have you handled it? I know it's one thing dealing with guys you don't know... that **** is easy. But a close personal friend who tried to screw you over, I think is a bit more difficult to handle.