Forty0ztoFreedom
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I was supposed to go out with this girl, but the event was canceled. So I decide on going to a brewery, and it turns out she had the same plans with friends already (before she knew about the show). Not to be negative, but as I am clearly focused on her, I will refer to he as "oneitus." So I go to the brewery with her and friends. I'm already feeling kind of bummed that this isn't just 'me and her' and its with a group.
I don't even hug her when I see her . . maybe not a big deal, but it sets the wrong frame in my head. Its like I've begun to friend-zone myself. (Gotta work on this).
There is another girl in the group. We'll just call her 'tiny girl.' She's small, skinny, really cute face though. I'm a big dude. This is an odd match, but there's a good vibe with her. I catch her looking at me throughout the night and I'm kind of teasing, but in a nice charming way.
Anyway we get there, Onietus is walking with me, I think of taking her hand but don't . . The friends being around just froze me. I was the frozen AFC. Still having fun and holding conversation, but no escalation or anything. I'm in the wrong frame of mind.
Anyway, other people show up and she's greeting them . . starts talking to this guy. Good looking guy. "This is going to hell," I think. She seems to like him. They seem to have a past, even.
No, not like this. I won't be the AFC robbed of the girl on what could have been a DATE. So I say **** it and I start walking around the venue to chat up girls. In fact, every time I saw her talking to another guy, my immediate response was "time to find a girl." I did catch her looking a few times.
One set is a cute girl in braces (I think braces are fvcking adorable), who is seeming into me. We have an awesome fun/teasing vibe going. I'm telling her and her friend to meet us at the next bar. They seem like they're going.
But that goes to sh*t as everyone decides to hit up another spot, including the oneitus. In fact, it may have been her idea. Hmm. Maybe she knew I had invited the other girls? Not sure. Thats wishful thinking, anyway.
We get to another place and I am just talking to every girl, including Tiny-girl. Me, her, and oneitus go out to the car to have some vodka. Tiny-girl leaves to drive home, so its me and Oneitus. She sits in the drivers seat (I'm outside), so I felt like I couldn't make any move, and I take this as an IOD (like she's avoiding any chance of me making a move)
More of the same for another hour or so. Then onietus's other guy (the guy she seemed to like) shows up. Crap. I just ignore it. When we're all leaving, she seems to want to follow him and a friend of hers. I say "You can go with them if you want its no big deal." She doesn't. They end up actually going home, so its me, onietus, and another buddy (tiny-girls roomate) for the rest of the night.
At this point I'm just partying. I can't believe this, at one point, was a 'date' in my mind. God. We hit up another bar, kind of separated now . . I'm doing my thing, she's doing hers. The night ends and we go back to our buddy's apartment, where . . Oh snap, the return of Tiny-girl! We're all partying, and finally I have a good rapport back with Oneitus. But as time goes on, she goes to bed, and its me and Tiny-girl.
We're getting close. She is throwing the most blatant, ridiculous sh*t-tests at me. She has this look on her face like "Are you f*cking crazy?" But I'm just not phased. I knew what she was doing and just laugh it off every time. Listen to this sh*t:
"Are you having an episode?"
"Are you autistic?"
"Do you have ADD?"
"Please don't kill me."
Like, what?? I say "I totally want to make out with you all night." She backs off a bit, looking nervous, and says "Do people do that??" WTF? Cute.
Its on. We make out all night. I escalate more, reaching down her pants, up her shirt. I say "say when." Dumb. She says "I'm bad at saying 'no'" and takes me hand away. Oh well. With some hard escalation I feel like I could have f*cked her, but we just chill and make out. We're up till 9AM and finally go to sleep in her bed.
This reminds me that the times I'm successful with a girl, I'm not worried about it AT ALL, and I make no bones about what I want. I've heard to just 'make a move' and 'go for it,' but I'm finding that with the proper vibe going (this is key), outright mentioning it verbally has brought more comfort to the situation . . it opens the door.
Its 3pm when we wake up (and I realize I'm laying in f*cking cat-hair). Oneitus is still there. So basically, Oneitus is waiting all day for me to go home as I'm in tiny-girl's room with her. But she doesn't seem pissed or anything. Was this too much? I guess I'm concerned that I've friend-zoned myself by getting another girl that night.
I don't feel good about the situation with this onietus anymore. I should be (and am) happy about tiny-girl. I will probably call her this week or something. But damnit, I still want the oneitus. If there was any attraction there, I'm a bit concerned that pursuing other girls that night, and basically getting one with her there, could have diminished attraction. Almost like I gave in to a friendship frame. I think it may have fizzled out.
I take her home, she hugs me goodbye but has her head low so no chance for any kiss.
All in all though, pretty EPIC fun night.
I don't even hug her when I see her . . maybe not a big deal, but it sets the wrong frame in my head. Its like I've begun to friend-zone myself. (Gotta work on this).
There is another girl in the group. We'll just call her 'tiny girl.' She's small, skinny, really cute face though. I'm a big dude. This is an odd match, but there's a good vibe with her. I catch her looking at me throughout the night and I'm kind of teasing, but in a nice charming way.
Anyway we get there, Onietus is walking with me, I think of taking her hand but don't . . The friends being around just froze me. I was the frozen AFC. Still having fun and holding conversation, but no escalation or anything. I'm in the wrong frame of mind.
Anyway, other people show up and she's greeting them . . starts talking to this guy. Good looking guy. "This is going to hell," I think. She seems to like him. They seem to have a past, even.
No, not like this. I won't be the AFC robbed of the girl on what could have been a DATE. So I say **** it and I start walking around the venue to chat up girls. In fact, every time I saw her talking to another guy, my immediate response was "time to find a girl." I did catch her looking a few times.
One set is a cute girl in braces (I think braces are fvcking adorable), who is seeming into me. We have an awesome fun/teasing vibe going. I'm telling her and her friend to meet us at the next bar. They seem like they're going.
But that goes to sh*t as everyone decides to hit up another spot, including the oneitus. In fact, it may have been her idea. Hmm. Maybe she knew I had invited the other girls? Not sure. Thats wishful thinking, anyway.
We get to another place and I am just talking to every girl, including Tiny-girl. Me, her, and oneitus go out to the car to have some vodka. Tiny-girl leaves to drive home, so its me and Oneitus. She sits in the drivers seat (I'm outside), so I felt like I couldn't make any move, and I take this as an IOD (like she's avoiding any chance of me making a move)
More of the same for another hour or so. Then onietus's other guy (the guy she seemed to like) shows up. Crap. I just ignore it. When we're all leaving, she seems to want to follow him and a friend of hers. I say "You can go with them if you want its no big deal." She doesn't. They end up actually going home, so its me, onietus, and another buddy (tiny-girls roomate) for the rest of the night.
At this point I'm just partying. I can't believe this, at one point, was a 'date' in my mind. God. We hit up another bar, kind of separated now . . I'm doing my thing, she's doing hers. The night ends and we go back to our buddy's apartment, where . . Oh snap, the return of Tiny-girl! We're all partying, and finally I have a good rapport back with Oneitus. But as time goes on, she goes to bed, and its me and Tiny-girl.
We're getting close. She is throwing the most blatant, ridiculous sh*t-tests at me. She has this look on her face like "Are you f*cking crazy?" But I'm just not phased. I knew what she was doing and just laugh it off every time. Listen to this sh*t:
"Are you having an episode?"
"Are you autistic?"
"Do you have ADD?"
"Please don't kill me."
Like, what?? I say "I totally want to make out with you all night." She backs off a bit, looking nervous, and says "Do people do that??" WTF? Cute.
Its on. We make out all night. I escalate more, reaching down her pants, up her shirt. I say "say when." Dumb. She says "I'm bad at saying 'no'" and takes me hand away. Oh well. With some hard escalation I feel like I could have f*cked her, but we just chill and make out. We're up till 9AM and finally go to sleep in her bed.
This reminds me that the times I'm successful with a girl, I'm not worried about it AT ALL, and I make no bones about what I want. I've heard to just 'make a move' and 'go for it,' but I'm finding that with the proper vibe going (this is key), outright mentioning it verbally has brought more comfort to the situation . . it opens the door.
Its 3pm when we wake up (and I realize I'm laying in f*cking cat-hair). Oneitus is still there. So basically, Oneitus is waiting all day for me to go home as I'm in tiny-girl's room with her. But she doesn't seem pissed or anything. Was this too much? I guess I'm concerned that I've friend-zoned myself by getting another girl that night.
I don't feel good about the situation with this onietus anymore. I should be (and am) happy about tiny-girl. I will probably call her this week or something. But damnit, I still want the oneitus. If there was any attraction there, I'm a bit concerned that pursuing other girls that night, and basically getting one with her there, could have diminished attraction. Almost like I gave in to a friendship frame. I think it may have fizzled out.
I take her home, she hugs me goodbye but has her head low so no chance for any kiss.
All in all though, pretty EPIC fun night.
