JPlaya said:
I think that's my problem. I have a bunch of lingering thoughts and I'm still confident I can get somewhere with her. Most of it is just me over analyzing like usual. The only thing bad is that her interest has been lowered since we met. The worst part about oneitis is thinking she's sleeping with other guys every night. I hate this feeling.
What is her situation? Is she seeing somebody or dating anybody? If she isn't or even if she is, it's not out of the question to win her over. I don't want to set you up for failure but if your gut feeling tells you she still likes you and your gut feeling tells you that a possibility exists to have something with her then you should go for it, one final round.
Ask her to hang out one night (nothing like a date, that means no dinners or anything like that). Try something low key like going to a movie to start. If it's not too late and things are going good between you two then you need to spring something. In my own experiences women LOVE going to nice places at night (sneak into the park, an open field, the beach is kind of cliche but it works). Just play it off like it will be something fun and adventurous to do.
Once you're there, just go for a walk, talk like friends, if the chemistry is there she'll be open and more intimate with you. This is when you go for broke, if she already knows how you feel then ask her one last time something like "What's going on with us?" From there talk about your feelings for her and ask what she feels about you. If all goes well, seal the deal go for the kiss. If she doesn't feel similar, accept it, drive her home, and now you have closure.
JPlaya said:
I'm trying man. I'm currently looking for a job and I do weights. I could have lost my vcard to this girl, but I wimped out. She also still flirts with me and whenever I text her I get good responses. I miss her so much lol. I know I sound afc, but I can't help it. How do you know when it's over with a girl?
You only know it's over when she says it's over to your face and you believe it to be honest, some girls lie because they're afraid. The girl I'm after told me 3 weeks ago it was over only to tell me a few days ago she still wants to be with me. You need to just straight up ask her like I said before^^
If you feel like she's hiding something you just need to be firm with her about it. Tell her that you need the honest and complete truth because you've had just about all you can take and once she ends it with you then you're done and you're removing her from your life until you've gotten over her. If she has romantic feelings for you this will upset her and she'll confess to whatever she's hiding.
