Well, for the time being the situation is giving me the upperhand. I'm predicting some pretty fantastic sex when she gets back, and at the very least this is one particular stunt she won't be able to pull again. She's offering a lot of stuff for me to let her come back. She's offering to do all sorts of sexual stuff she knows appeals to me, but she had claimed she was unable to do. She's also telling me she needs to give me complete control over her when she gets back, in the bedroom and out. Seems like a bit of a hassle, but it basically means her day to day schedule will be determined by me, and she'll supposedly do what I want when I want no matter what 24 hours a day, in the bedroom and out. I told her part of that would be BPD counseling, and she consented. She's going to basically burn all her bridges with everyone there to come back.
Now, she could just be lying -I guess that could be said of all her statements- but everyone up there, all her friends and family despise me, and I've asked her and asked one of them who briefly "confronted" me, and neither she nor they can explain anything I did that justifies her leaving. The friend simply said I "hurt" her and I'm too stupid to know how. Of course, I've witnessed all of these people layer heaps of abuse on her, far beyond anything I've ever said or done. I've never insulted her, raised a hand to her, or forced myself on her, so I'm perplexed. In any event, of her stories are to be believed (and I know, they're most likely not) they're all nuts. Really, really nuts. Like, she claims once she got there they threw away a lot of the stuff in the uhaul and threw away the majority of her clothes. I'm going to have her give me a webcam tour of her old bedroom there, because she claims they're not allowing her to put any of the furniture back, but are forcing her to sleep in her old bedroom, the one two of her most traumatic rapes occurred in. I want to make sure she isn't just planning to leave her furniture in that room and clothes in case she wants to take off again.
In any event, she went up there without any money or anything, and she'd need like 100 bucks to get back (her car insurance expired, and she needs gas money) and rather than me pay for it, she's selling some of her things up there to make the money to come back.
Oh and of course in the few days she's back up there she's already received one death threat and one threat of rape.