After reading post after post on this website, I've come to realize one thing. A lot of these "aspiring DJ's" will never actually come close to becoming an actual DJ. Why?
They don't posess the right personality.
I'm going to be very critical here, and if I offend anybody, well, suck it up. Most of the newbie posts are too serious, lacking in humor. Even some of the more "experienced" DJ's on the site still give out some pretty horrendous advice from time to time. Being a DJ requires us to have good social skills. Not only do we have to be able to talk to people, but we have sound intelligent enough to keep 'em interested. We also have to know how to make people laugh. We HAVE to be able to use our wit at the right times. We also have to be able to do it without seeming like were trying too hard to funny. That, my friends, takes personality. It's not simple habits, which I consider AFC tactics to be. We're raised with the habit of being a nice guy because of our mothers. Being funny at the right time isn't a "habit." it's a skill which defines personality. You can notice it in a lot of the posts from the DJ bible. Most are very good with their words, manage to slip in something funny every here and there, and even show confidence IN the writing.
Let me give you a different point of view. We look at women and judge whether or not they have good genes based on how they look. Their personality is what adds a point or two on the scale. When women look at us and how good we are with our words, how good we are at making good decisions, and how well we can handle ourselves without having to ask stupid questions, they judge our genes accordingly. Our genes define our personality. Frankly, if you sound like a dumbass and she's a harvard graduate, there's no way in hell you're gonna pick her up, regardless of how good your game is. It's just the facts.
My whole point is, if you try and try with a woman, and even though your game was dead on, and you still fail, there's no reason to take it personally. Hey, you just ain't got the genes she's looking for.
So, how do you make the progression from AFC to DJ quicker... easy! Change who you hang out with. Find that funny ass crazy mother****er who doesn't seem to fear anything. Even if he's not good with the ladies, he still has something you don't, something you need. I'd have to say a lot of the changes in my personality were due to the people I hung out with, especially during high school. Ever notice how certain people seem to "rub off" on you? Congradulations, that's your mind being stimulated and deciding "Wow, this is a good thing. I wanna keep this with me." Notice how a movie comes out with a hilarious catch phrase and everybody starts saying it? Same thing. If it wasn't for this one friend I made in my sophmore year of high school, I'd still be stuck in AFC mode till at least my late 20's.
To sum everything all up, HUMOR is the MOST IMPORTANT part of a DJ's game. Why? If you're a fun person to be around, even if you're having a bad night trying to pick up the ladies, you'll STILL have a blast entertaining everyone around you. When that happens, your social proof goes through the roof. Those two when put together with a tad bit of mystery and a little bit of aggressiveness to meeting the ladies, you can attract any woman you want.
They don't posess the right personality.
I'm going to be very critical here, and if I offend anybody, well, suck it up. Most of the newbie posts are too serious, lacking in humor. Even some of the more "experienced" DJ's on the site still give out some pretty horrendous advice from time to time. Being a DJ requires us to have good social skills. Not only do we have to be able to talk to people, but we have sound intelligent enough to keep 'em interested. We also have to know how to make people laugh. We HAVE to be able to use our wit at the right times. We also have to be able to do it without seeming like were trying too hard to funny. That, my friends, takes personality. It's not simple habits, which I consider AFC tactics to be. We're raised with the habit of being a nice guy because of our mothers. Being funny at the right time isn't a "habit." it's a skill which defines personality. You can notice it in a lot of the posts from the DJ bible. Most are very good with their words, manage to slip in something funny every here and there, and even show confidence IN the writing.
Let me give you a different point of view. We look at women and judge whether or not they have good genes based on how they look. Their personality is what adds a point or two on the scale. When women look at us and how good we are with our words, how good we are at making good decisions, and how well we can handle ourselves without having to ask stupid questions, they judge our genes accordingly. Our genes define our personality. Frankly, if you sound like a dumbass and she's a harvard graduate, there's no way in hell you're gonna pick her up, regardless of how good your game is. It's just the facts.
My whole point is, if you try and try with a woman, and even though your game was dead on, and you still fail, there's no reason to take it personally. Hey, you just ain't got the genes she's looking for.
So, how do you make the progression from AFC to DJ quicker... easy! Change who you hang out with. Find that funny ass crazy mother****er who doesn't seem to fear anything. Even if he's not good with the ladies, he still has something you don't, something you need. I'd have to say a lot of the changes in my personality were due to the people I hung out with, especially during high school. Ever notice how certain people seem to "rub off" on you? Congradulations, that's your mind being stimulated and deciding "Wow, this is a good thing. I wanna keep this with me." Notice how a movie comes out with a hilarious catch phrase and everybody starts saying it? Same thing. If it wasn't for this one friend I made in my sophmore year of high school, I'd still be stuck in AFC mode till at least my late 20's.
To sum everything all up, HUMOR is the MOST IMPORTANT part of a DJ's game. Why? If you're a fun person to be around, even if you're having a bad night trying to pick up the ladies, you'll STILL have a blast entertaining everyone around you. When that happens, your social proof goes through the roof. Those two when put together with a tad bit of mystery and a little bit of aggressiveness to meeting the ladies, you can attract any woman you want.
