I heard a argument discussion about Attribute centric people (David D'angelo) vs Technique centric (Mystery) in one of Style's phone recordings. As I listen to it, it got me thinking a lot about the success I have seen in my self and in others. I realized how much of a connection these two really have. A revelation if you will.
Let me take you through a guide of how my game is developing. From the start I was pretty interesting person, not a bad looking guy, tall, sociable. My game though was running at a 1-10% efficiency. I played the numbers game and succeed somewhat but I think my looks and rhythm had more to do with it than my actual game. Out of my successes, 80% of them came from dancing. I then started to wonder, how the hell are these guys with practically no rhythm and many times no style getting with all these hot women. How come I am not the king of the jungle!? or in other words "How do these white guys do it!?"
I was on a mission. I had a lot of the attributes mentioned through Don Juan, books and other places online I had been reading since High School. I was ****y and funny before David did his first seminar on it. I was good at keeping a relationship thanks to this but only once I get a relationship going. I also failed at them once I gave in like most of us do. But why in the world was my success ratio so low? My answer was finally given when I discovered the likes of Mystery, and Style. The missing piece to my puzzle. The techniques! DHVs, Negs, Openers, Time constraints, gimmicks, gambits and so on.
Let me remind you of the 4 stages of learning:
1. Unconscious Incompetence
2. Conscious Incompetence
3. Conscious Competence
4. Unconscious Competence
To me, when I first started using techniques and routines, I was in the Conscious Incompetence stage. Once I learned these well enough I began the Conscious Competence stage of the techniques phase. However even though I know what I have to do there is still so much to remember and we can only keep around 7 things in our head at one time (proved through experiments, + or - 2). Eye contact, body language, smile, IOD, calibrate, routine, rinse and repeat. I'm now feeling that these techniques are becoming natural and automatic as they are engraved into my subconscious mind. The missing attributes required are now sinking in (funny, confident, of higher value, strength, adaptable etc...).
The key to attraction are most definitely the Attributes that make the Alpha male but the techniques are the drivers that not only demonstrate those sought out attributes but internalize them to what you call self, your automatic machine, the bottom part of the iceberg, the unconscious that represents thee. It has taken me years to try and become this attribute rich person but without techniques it's been a very long and painful process. Hopefully you don't repeat those same mistakes.
Let me take you through a guide of how my game is developing. From the start I was pretty interesting person, not a bad looking guy, tall, sociable. My game though was running at a 1-10% efficiency. I played the numbers game and succeed somewhat but I think my looks and rhythm had more to do with it than my actual game. Out of my successes, 80% of them came from dancing. I then started to wonder, how the hell are these guys with practically no rhythm and many times no style getting with all these hot women. How come I am not the king of the jungle!? or in other words "How do these white guys do it!?"
I was on a mission. I had a lot of the attributes mentioned through Don Juan, books and other places online I had been reading since High School. I was ****y and funny before David did his first seminar on it. I was good at keeping a relationship thanks to this but only once I get a relationship going. I also failed at them once I gave in like most of us do. But why in the world was my success ratio so low? My answer was finally given when I discovered the likes of Mystery, and Style. The missing piece to my puzzle. The techniques! DHVs, Negs, Openers, Time constraints, gimmicks, gambits and so on.
Let me remind you of the 4 stages of learning:
1. Unconscious Incompetence
2. Conscious Incompetence
3. Conscious Competence
4. Unconscious Competence
To me, when I first started using techniques and routines, I was in the Conscious Incompetence stage. Once I learned these well enough I began the Conscious Competence stage of the techniques phase. However even though I know what I have to do there is still so much to remember and we can only keep around 7 things in our head at one time (proved through experiments, + or - 2). Eye contact, body language, smile, IOD, calibrate, routine, rinse and repeat. I'm now feeling that these techniques are becoming natural and automatic as they are engraved into my subconscious mind. The missing attributes required are now sinking in (funny, confident, of higher value, strength, adaptable etc...).
The key to attraction are most definitely the Attributes that make the Alpha male but the techniques are the drivers that not only demonstrate those sought out attributes but internalize them to what you call self, your automatic machine, the bottom part of the iceberg, the unconscious that represents thee. It has taken me years to try and become this attribute rich person but without techniques it's been a very long and painful process. Hopefully you don't repeat those same mistakes.
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