darkstarrr
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taiyuu_otoko said:Would any of you consider the possibility that your quality deteriorated over time, and that is why she left, and instead of looking at your own behaviors, you blamed everything on a general lack of quality among women?
These are 2 brilliant points to think about because they seem conflicting at first glance because one stresses self-reflection and the other stresses reliability but they in fact compliment each other quite nicely.STR8UP said:I've had what a lot of you would call "quality" women. One in particular that I met at a bad stage of my life. She won't be deserving of that label until she's been with me for a long time and gone through some of these rough patches to where I can actually SEE her character.
Self reflection as TO described in such a clear cut way that we are accountable for who we are and how we act. Reliability as described by Str8up is equally important because every single person in this world at some point in their lives will hit a bad patch, where they need encounter a career change or death in their family, or SOMETHING - ANYTHING that can cause them to appear temporarily weak (maybe weak is not the most accurate word).
In regards to what TO said, I had to take steps to move up the ladder for my career and that required me to work extra hours at work and be on conference calls very early in the morning. I also travelled for work (although I do not anymore) and during that time I was unable to get into the gym as often as I would like. So, I lost some pounds and wasn;t as swollen as I normally was. Does this mean my overall "quality" deteriorated to the point where it was justifiably "fair" that I should look into the mirror and blame myself for her leaving? Fvck no I won't do that. I busted my chops for myself and to improve my life. I stuck with that wacko throughout her manic depressive 6 month state and genuinely tried to help her. I didn't think to myself oh "she is acting like a loser and is unattarctive" just because she was going through a bad patch. Its a shame she didn't have the character to grant me the same. Oh but wait, I don't want to come off as being a martyr who gives to receive (/sarcasm). Too bad she couldn't keep her proverbial d1ck in her pants long enough for my busy schedule to be cut back to normal (and yes I am back in the gym now).
But I suppose everything I just said is null because the premise to it all is that I am not talking about a "quality" woman, am I... (*ponders*)
Is a woman low quality if she hits the road when you are going through a bad patch?
2 very good points guys, thank you!