InLawsHateMe
Master Don Juan
GF, invited me to do some camping with some of her friends this Labor Day weekend. I was for it, until a week ago. Wet, and humid weather changed my mind about spending the weekend outdoors. Throw in a couple college football game parties, and the decision to stay indoors with the AC, and food, and football, was an easy choice.
Tried to talk her out of camping, she's 18 weeks pregnant, but had no luck. She wanted to go.... she's been really weird with the attitude lately. Excample: Last week, we talked about plans Friday night. She had told me that her and her Dad, were driving up to college to pick up her sister Friday after work. I think she was waiting for me to ask her if I could join them, but I didn't. She asked what I was doing, I indicated to her that my boss was throwing a party, and she should come with me. She said she wasn't sure what she was going to do. I suggested that I'd like for us to get together, since it seems we haven't had quality time together this week.... after work Friday, she called and told me she was going with her Dad to get her sister. I, went to the party.
She called me the next day (Saturday), said everyone is heading out to breakfast, again, not really asking me to join them, so I didn't ask to join. therefore didn't go. Lately, she seems to be living by this rule that she's not going to ask me per say, but allowing me to do 'what I feel like doing.' ...which is good but, at the same time, I'm not sure if she truly wants to see me by not asking me to join her in her activities... the last few times we got together, she seemed distant. Like you know something is a bit off, just not sure why? She's been getting a little synical, like her Dad, towards life in general. Not long after I told her Dad I was gonna ask his daughter in marriage, only to have my plans denied by him.... f*ck him... but I can't help but think he's putting thoughts into her head over this...
So... last night she went camping with friends, and I went to football parties, and dancing... still can't help but wonder, should I have gone with her camping? It just seemed like there's a bad vibe between us lately, and I didn't want to make it worse, but think I have by not going... besides all her friends like to talk(women), and that's not my idea on entertainment.
I want her to understand that if she wants me to stay the night, or go out with her, or do things with her, she will have to ask me... and not to always leave the choice up to me. She used to ask me all the time... I wonder if she's just not interested, but then why would she call?
So my questions are....
Did I do the right thing so far by what you read? ..and I doing the right thing by giving her space, even though she hasn't suggested it, but is simply going by my gut reaction, due to her 'distant' feeling?
It just seems like I'm damn if I do, and damned if I don't.
Tried to talk her out of camping, she's 18 weeks pregnant, but had no luck. She wanted to go.... she's been really weird with the attitude lately. Excample: Last week, we talked about plans Friday night. She had told me that her and her Dad, were driving up to college to pick up her sister Friday after work. I think she was waiting for me to ask her if I could join them, but I didn't. She asked what I was doing, I indicated to her that my boss was throwing a party, and she should come with me. She said she wasn't sure what she was going to do. I suggested that I'd like for us to get together, since it seems we haven't had quality time together this week.... after work Friday, she called and told me she was going with her Dad to get her sister. I, went to the party.
She called me the next day (Saturday), said everyone is heading out to breakfast, again, not really asking me to join them, so I didn't ask to join. therefore didn't go. Lately, she seems to be living by this rule that she's not going to ask me per say, but allowing me to do 'what I feel like doing.' ...which is good but, at the same time, I'm not sure if she truly wants to see me by not asking me to join her in her activities... the last few times we got together, she seemed distant. Like you know something is a bit off, just not sure why? She's been getting a little synical, like her Dad, towards life in general. Not long after I told her Dad I was gonna ask his daughter in marriage, only to have my plans denied by him.... f*ck him... but I can't help but think he's putting thoughts into her head over this...
So... last night she went camping with friends, and I went to football parties, and dancing... still can't help but wonder, should I have gone with her camping? It just seemed like there's a bad vibe between us lately, and I didn't want to make it worse, but think I have by not going... besides all her friends like to talk(women), and that's not my idea on entertainment.
I want her to understand that if she wants me to stay the night, or go out with her, or do things with her, she will have to ask me... and not to always leave the choice up to me. She used to ask me all the time... I wonder if she's just not interested, but then why would she call?
So my questions are....
Did I do the right thing so far by what you read? ..and I doing the right thing by giving her space, even though she hasn't suggested it, but is simply going by my gut reaction, due to her 'distant' feeling?
It just seems like I'm damn if I do, and damned if I don't.
