HB_Hunter:
What if I was not the person that I am now? What if I was a newbie?
To which I responded...
You must think, to eventually not think.
You must seduce, to eventually not seduce.
You must follow guidelines, to eventually go free form.
You must focus on women, to eventually focus on yourself.
You must go fast, to eventually go slow.
For further clarification, sometimes you need to go one way in order to go another.
Too slow. I remember once years ago I kept asking out a woman for two months, once a week, and along the way suffered from her various excuses. The time I did get a 'date' from her, more like just friends, I didn't make any moves on her. So, eventually I turned my approach to women around and went the fast route, asking women out I just met -- the "one encounter seduction" -- getting digits, asking them out, etc. Push. Push. Push.
Ultimately both were equally uneffective, but were helpful in that they were failures. It was
experience. I needed to go one way before going the other.
Focus. If you had told my previous self to 'focus on myself', it'd have done me no good. I'd have kept on doing the "nothing" things I was doing. So, "focus on women" would be the medicine.
One needs to get out there and experiencing meeting women, focusing on all those tricks/methods whatever. Only then, after a matter of time, after those 'successes', to throw off all that and go natural, focusing on yourself. Even throwing away all the tricks/methods, you'd not be the same person, because over time through all those experiences you'd have changed as person, with every experience changing you bit by bit.
If you're ready for this latter stage, dive in.
This being desireless thing went to hell and now it's more of the getting the focus on yourself and being sexual
I used to believe in
appearing desireless, for women did seem to warm up to me, until I realized I was only sanitizing myself. They didn't want me, but by coming off as not wanting them, they felt somewhat safer.
As for
being desireless, that's good for safety, and as I've learned safety is the least desirable; a life not lived in risks is a life not lived. The funnest things I've done were done when I threw caution to the wind, or better even, not even think, and just did it. Being desireless is good for learning to control yourself, but that fleeing from safety is something which must be eventually done.
But to go natural you have to be around girls all the time
I wouldn't say it's necessary. I've certainly never been around girls all the time. How much, then? It's for you to decide.