I used this frame today for a few minutes---it's one I use when I get depressed w/ my social status (which I don't anymore)---but I think it's a useful one to keep perspective.
So, let's say that you feel like crap because your oneitis won't give you time of day/none of the "cool" kids like you/you and your best friend are hating each other. What to do? Well, you can always sit around, mope, and cut yourself, thus going down the path of the emo kid. But we do not wish to do that, do we?
Instead, realize the fact that all of high school is transitory and meaningless.
Now, this isn't a new insight, but my particular frame is.
It's simple: Picture yourself at your high school reunion. When you're all adults, hanging out, having fun, successful or relatively so---and none of this bullcrap matters anymore. Actually visualize seeing the people you know now, maybe that one oneitis chick who totally hates you---and you're just chatting away. And you realize---the status quo is not inevitable, I'm eventually gonna graduate from this hell hole, so whatever happens here doesn't really matter.
So, let's say that you feel like crap because your oneitis won't give you time of day/none of the "cool" kids like you/you and your best friend are hating each other. What to do? Well, you can always sit around, mope, and cut yourself, thus going down the path of the emo kid. But we do not wish to do that, do we?
Instead, realize the fact that all of high school is transitory and meaningless.
Now, this isn't a new insight, but my particular frame is.
It's simple: Picture yourself at your high school reunion. When you're all adults, hanging out, having fun, successful or relatively so---and none of this bullcrap matters anymore. Actually visualize seeing the people you know now, maybe that one oneitis chick who totally hates you---and you're just chatting away. And you realize---the status quo is not inevitable, I'm eventually gonna graduate from this hell hole, so whatever happens here doesn't really matter.