How should women open you? - What will make you interested?

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As a MGTOW I like spending time with the person who means to me the most. That person is me. So when women come to my life I can tell from experience what they talk about probably does not interest me. Though that is the case with men too but to a lesser degree.

So for now if a women wants to open me I would like two things the most. First self improvement and second mild science like astronomy.

What topics do you hate the least where you would give her a chance?
 

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"I like you. Do I pass the Boner Test? Would you like some p00zy?" Not the exact words, but something along those lines would be cool.
 

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When you let them unbutton your fly.
Hi Amsterdam,
You are so quick......I grew up with several Dutch Boys and their sense of humour seemed so close to the English who I think excell in that that sort of thing,that it raised the question....How can you Guys,be so different to the Germans,with whom you share a border,and are notorious for their serious nature....I also noted your interest in Tantric Love,now I am slowing down I would like to get involved in it,any suggestions?
 

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How can you Guys,be so different to the Germans,with whom you share a border,and are notorious for their serious nature.
We didn't kill all our funny people. :cool:
 

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I also noted your interest in Tantric Love,now I am slowing down I would like to get involved in it,any suggestions?
No, I'm interested in tantra, not 'tantric love/sex/intimacy' per se.
I approach tantra from the shiatsu energy/bodywork side and use sensual touch techniques to flip women's switches into heat.
If you want a tip, study how to give shiatsu hand / feet massages. After women had the hand massage, they often want to feel my hands all over their body.
 

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A classic cold approach. For example you are sitting on a bank in the park and she comes and starts talking.
As a MGTOW I like spending time with the person who means to me the most. That person is me. So when women come to my life I can tell from experience what they talk about probably does not interest me. Though that is the case with men too but to a lesser degree.

So for now if a women wants to open me I would like two things the most. First self improvement and second mild science like astronomy.

What topics do you hate the least where you would give her a chance?
Most conversations between strangers who just met, at least ln my case (whether she or zi initiated it) tend to be light and non-serious. Usually flirty and fun/humorous . I don’t think I’d enjoy having some serious conversation early on. Frankly. If she is attractive, I really don’t care what she talks about.
For example. Before I wound up with my current GF. I was to meet some friends at a coffee shop to play some cards. I walked in and this girl, who was sitting there said ‘nice pants’ to me. We wound up just flirting and talking about innocuous silly stuff like coffee, the card game I was going to play, teeth and my big hsnds… My friends showed up. We exchanged numbers. She called me around 3 am for a booty call.
 

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Most conversations between strangers who just met, at least ln my case (whether she or zi initiated it) tend to be light and non-serious. Usually flirty and fun/humorous . I don’t think I’d enjoy having some serious conversation early on. Frankly. If she is attractive, I really don’t care what she talks about.
For example. Before I wound up with my current GF. I was to meet some friends at a coffee shop to play some cards. I walked in and this girl, who was sitting there said ‘nice pants’ to me. We wound up just flirting and talking about innocuous silly stuff like coffee, the card game I was going to play, teeth and my big hsnds… My friends showed up. We exchanged numbers. She called me around 3 am for a booty call.

I know that is why it is not fun to talk to strangers or to be talked by strangers. It feels like a waste of time. It is ok to do it for training to make shure you can do it.

In your example I would find it risky to invite strangers to my home.

Nowadays most guys do not need sex that much. There is porn and unlimited entertainment. So she has to compete with that.

Additionally the topics I menioned are abstract enough so it is not too personal because when it becomes personal things can get bad quite quickly.

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If she is funny she can come up with something funny though it is a bit risky.

For example something like this story


 
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I know that is why it is not fun to talk to strangers or to be talked by strangers. It feels like a waste of time. It is ok to do it for training to make shure you can do it.

In your example I would find it risky to invite strangers to my home.

Nowadays most guys do not need sex that much. There is porn and unlimited entertainment. So she has to compete with that.

Additionally the topics I menioned are abstract enough so it is not too personal because when it becomes personal things can get bad quite quickly.

Edit:
If she is funny she can come up with something funny though it is a bit risky.

For example something like this story


I enjoy talking to people. I’m full of nonsense so frivolous chatting is fine. And. I prefer non-serious conversations. I went to her place. but, I get what you mean. I felt comfortable enough with her. Of course. It’s always a risk.
A real girl, who’s horny. is way more fun than porn & entertainment.
 

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I enjoy talking to people. I’m full of nonsense so frivolous chatting is fine. And. I prefer non-serious conversations. I went to her place. but, I get what you mean. I felt comfortable enough with her. Of course. It’s always a risk.
A real girl, who’s horny. is way more fun than porn & entertainment.
I think it is also a bit of maturity thing also. After doing all the nonsense fun things after expriencing alot of hedonic adaptation at one point one might think it is a waste of time. It is cheap dopamine. I might can do it better.

I might do the 'fun' things more organized. Like doing 'home karaoke' and 'home dancing' or whatever floats your boat. I feel things become messy the more other people get involved.

It is an amazing feelling when one does not depend on others and has satisfaction exploring intellectual stuff like this for example:


 

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I think it is also a bit of maturity thing also. After doing all the nonsense fun things after expriencing alot of hedonic adaptation at one point one might think it is a waste of time. It is cheap dopamine. I might can do it better.

I might do the 'fun' things more organized. Like doing 'home karaoke' and 'home dancing' or whatever floats your boat. I feel things become messy the more other people get involved.

It is an amazing feelling when one does not depend on others and has satisfaction exploring intellectual stuff like this for example:


I’m probably a dopamine addict.
 

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I’m probably a dopamine addict.
I believe we are all dopamine addicts. I think it depends on what kind of one. I feel like when I am stressed out and my willpower is low then 'cheap dopamine' rules. When my life is not full of stress I have more willpower and I don't need that much of 'cheap dopamine'. I am satisfied with 'good dopamine'.

Big part of it is to analyze and experiment how to optimize oneself. Then things become easier to control. Most of the time we are like dogs chasing afte cars without knowing why. Once we know what we want we figure out 90% of the things we chase are not worth it.
 

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What is the definition of ‘open you’?
A classic cold approach. For example you are sitting on a bank in the park and she comes and starts talking.
Men in the middle of the bell curve on looks are rarely going to be approached by women in the real world. This might happen once a year or less.

Men do get "opened" on Bumble, where a woman is forced to initiate a conversation. Most women do the least they can on Bumble with opening men. They say "Hi" or "Hi First Name" or send some gif. It's also worth noting that women don't open a sizable percentage of their matches on Bumble within the time limit.

Women tend to think far more men are unattractive than they actually are.
 
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Men in the middle of the bell curve on looks are rarely going to be approached by women in the real world. This might happen once a year or less.

Men do get "opened" on Bumble, where a woman is forced to initiate a conversation. Most women do the least they can on Bumble with opening men. They say "Hi" or "Hi First Name" or send some gif. It's also worth noting that women don't open a sizable percentage of their matches on Bumble within the time limit.

Women tend to think far more men are unattractive than they actually are.
That does not answer the question though.
 
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