You've served a purpose

[jhonny9546]

I refer you to this excellent post and I also invite you to read all the comments.
I found the feedback from all these people very real, and for men in sosuave, this is very useful.

https://www.reddit.com/r/Divorce_Men/comments/13lvoqj
Sum

Separations and divorces aren't surprises...you already know you served a purpose for her. You were available when she needed something from you: marriage, children, stability, popularity, sex, approval, or whatever. It was a practical decision on her part.
You, being the crazy romantic, thought fairytale time had come. That this was your "Soulmate," and if you worked hard enough, washed the dishes, and dedicated your entire life to pleasing and earning her approval, you'd live a happy life.
But she never felt that way. You were Plan B, or even Plan C or Plan D, and you're not the guy she really wanted to date in college. You're incomparable to him in any way, but she ended up settling for you.