"You're mean!"

[evolvingnerd]

several chicks have been sayin this to me lately
but i stil do'nt turn aroudn with any stupid **** like oh i'm so sorry, i do'nt mean to
i usually just shrug it off

now...could it be that i've turned up the a$$hole factor too much?
or is it some sortta game or what?

 

[Eggchen]

If they hit you playfully then you're in.

 

[Lifeforce]

You are probably an ******* and this is why they say it. Take some time and imagine a girl saying the stuff you say to chicks, how would you react? Be ready for a surprise where you realize you are not so smooth as you think.

 

[PeeGee]

It depends on the context. I have a friend who is surrounded by IWs In fact I used to be one of the guys who did her bidding. Anyway, as I decided never to pander to the whims of women, we typically get into problems when I refuse to do her bidding, like telling her stories or "entertaining her" when she's bored.

So she tells me that I'm mean. I just laugh.

 

[biker_gixxer]

Originally posted by Eggchen
If they hit you playfully then you're in.

"you're mean" translation "I'm attracted you"
I heard this several times before (what that statement really means) and have experienced it myself. If a girl thinks your an *******, as Life put it, I'm pretty sure she'll use 'not so nice' words to express it. I've experienced THIS as well, lol.

 

[Lifeforce]

"'you're mean' translation 'I'm attracted you'"

...and I think you are an *******.

 

[Gangster Of Love]

Originally posted by biker_gixxer
"you're mean" translation "I'm attracted you"
I heard this several times before (what that statement really means) and have experienced it myself. If a girl thinks your an *******, as Life put it, I'm pretty sure she'll use 'not so nice' words to express it. I've experienced THIS as well, lol.

Absolutely. If she laughs, or acts like she's hurt, or even if she's kinda mad, but sticks around, it means "I AM ATTRACTED TO YOU", end of the story.

Off course, and AFC, approval seeking, nice guy will be scared and act like walking on egg shells when a girl makes any kind of disaproving comment.

 

[Dapper Swindler]

I agree, it is probably a good thing. If a girl really thought you were mean and didn't like you she would say "Get the fvck away from me"

 

[Scrumtulescence]

Originally posted by Lifeforce
"'you're mean' translation 'I'm attracted you'"

...and I think you are an *******.

You've got issues. And you obviously don't understand what being playful with a girl is about.

I don't have tons of experience with girls, but I'm no AFC pushover when I actually get comfortable with them. When they say stuff like "you're mean" and "*gasp* you jerk!" in a playful way with a smile on their face, yes, it means they like it. Why else would they be SMILING and be even more drawn to you? And yeah, if they playfully hit you, that's even better.

 

[b's nuts]

my favorite response to this to say, "I know", and pull their hair (not like your trying to hurt them, dumbass, just playfully).

 

[Lifeforce]

Originally posted by Scrumtulescence
You've got issues. And you obviously don't understand what being playful with a girl is about.

I don't have tons of experience with girls, but I'm no AFC pushover when I actually get comfortable with them. When they say stuff like "you're mean" and "*gasp* you jerk!" in a playful way with a smile on their face, yes, it means they like it. Why else would they be SMILING and be even more drawn to you? And yeah, if they playfully hit you, that's even better.

Sorry what I wrote, when I read it now I see it can be intreprented in different ways, Like I say biker... is an ******* and what I really meant, that the girl is attracted but feel the guy is an ******* at the same time, this is why she doesn't leave. And from my own experience being an ******* is only short term success and unhealthy relationship. I blew one relationship because of this.

However, the tone of the voice is obviously not that of playfulness when you read the first post. "like oh i'm so sorry, i do'nt mean to i usually just shrug it off" Then you realize this is not playfulness, she has get involved emotionally and he hurt her ego and she want him to stop because she like who he is otherwise. But you guys only go thinking it is good because when a girl says "you're mean" it always mean "I like you", wake the **** up from this dream world!

 

[DJ_Dork]

when a girl is hitting you or calling you meanie it is an unconcious way of her telling you that "you are a not a nice guy" and that's a good thing, you don't want to be labeled a nice guy.

it's always a good thing. that's how it started for me with this current hb8. i make fun of people and everything and talk about gross stuff , and she slaps me on the shoulder all the time while smiling. you have to have the attitude and not fake being mean. and while you're there, if you feel like making fun of other women go ahead. just don't hit below the belt like "damn, she is one ugly h0 or fat h0".

 

[Lifeforce]

Originally posted by DJ_Dork
when a girl is hitting you or calling you meanie it is an unconcious way of her telling you that "you are a not a nice guy" and that's a good thing, you don't want to be labeled a nice guy.

it's always a good thing. that's how it started for me with this current hb8. i make fun of people and everything and talk about gross stuff , and she slaps me on the shoulder all the time while smiling. you have to have the attitude and not fake being mean. and while you're there, if you feel like making fun of other women go ahead. just don't hit below the belt like "damn, she is one ugly h0 or fat h0".

There is nothing wrong with being a nice guy as long as you are not a wussy guy, nice is not a bad quality, wussy is. Nice doesn't mean you have no sexuality, nice doesn't mean you are scared of doing stuff. Think about girls with this quality, we probably all can agree that girls who are wussy and nice are boring and unattractive, but girls who are nice but yet she is sexual is nice to be with. I am a nice guy and proud of it.

People like jokes, people don't like being the joke. Period. Have you ever thought that it is other stuff than being called mean that give you success? Teasing is great to do with girls, as long as she understand it is playful, when she feel the teasing have hurt her ego it is not fun anymore, it is counter productive, if she had no attraction at this level then she would leave. Making fun of other people, that's low. It's as low as talking sh!t behind the back, it destroys the trust.

 

[DJ_Dork]

Originally posted by Lifeforce
There is nothing wrong with being a nice guy as long as you are not a wussy guy, nice is not a bad quality, wussy is. Nice doesn't mean you have no sexuality, nice doesn't mean you are scared of doing stuff. Think about girls with this quality, we probably all can agree that girls who are wussy and nice are boring and unattractive, but girls who are nice but yet she is sexual is nice to be with. I am a nice guy and proud of it.

People like jokes, people don't like being the joke. Period. Have you ever thought that it is other stuff than being called mean that give you success? Teasing is great to do with girls, as long as she understand it is playful, when she feel the teasing have hurt her ego it is not fun anymore, it is counter productive, if she had no attraction at this level then she would leave. Making fun of other people, that's low. It's as low as talking sh!t behind the back, it destroys the trust.

Yeah I agree. talking sh1t about other people is ALWAYS BAD in front of others especially a girl you're interested. I mean you can say "hmm I think that person is really flaming gay" but you shouldn't say "ugh, fat disgusting vile homo guy."

 

[Recluce]

anytime a girl opens her mouth, she's testing you. she's trying to see if she can get you to change for her, and as soon as you do change, you're labeled an AFC in her book. i learned this the hard way, with an HB9 (and i dont give 10's because a 10 can only be attained by a 9 that has a good personality that goes with the body)

here's a response straight from David D's stuff that suits this situation perfectly.

her: You're mean!
me: well you might not want to hang around me anymore then because i do that a LOT!

 

[becker]

This girl that was totally doing some testing of me before basically told me this when we were talking on the phone once and she was acting pretty strange, as though she was not interested in doing anything with me after our first date. Long story short, near the end of the call, she told me to just say "bye" because I've been trying to do that all this time (apparently she believed that I was trying to get off the phone with her all this time). Anyways, I told her "bye" and that she should delete my phone number, to which she replied "you're mean".

How do you guys interpret that? I just thought it was sort of a lack of interest. However, I called her yesterday, and got her voice mail, left her a message, and she called me back. I feel she's sort of playing a little bit hard to get, but at the same time, I'm not sure because she may not be interested in me at all. It's just so difficult to tell.

Any insight?

 

[biker_gixxer]

Originally posted by Lifeforce
"'you're mean' translation 'I'm attracted you'"

...and I think you are an *******.

sorry Life, I only date 'girls', but thanks for the offer anyway.

 

[Lifeforce]

My response should have been:

"'you're mean' translation 'I'm attracted you ...and I think you are an ******* at the same time'"

sorry for the confusion.

 

[Unforsaken]

In lifeforce opinion I must be a huge ******* then...

I get alot of women to say "Your so mean" and then gently smack me in the arm as they are laughing their asses off. I don't pay much attention on what she said, but how she said it. If she laughing at one of my jokes and she loving every second of it, then she is as guilty as I am.

I have had this one experience when a co-worker who I talked to for most of the day called me mean, because I would bust on her. She said it in a playful way and had a big smile. when she finished her work shift she said "Bye, honey". I was caught of guard and stunned by her reaction.

Since then when a women says I am mean(in a playful way), I just interpet it as she want me, bad.

If you want to think of it logically, they would have called you a ******* if you really were one. Why do they say it in a nice way?...to not offend you..duh!

 

[biker_gixxer]

when she finished her work shift she said "Bye, honey". I was caught of guard and stunned by her reaction

ahhh, yes. The sweet smell of Victory. Don't you just love when this happens?