"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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your opinions on a freeze out

ajjones

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Hey fellas, just wanted to stop by and see about your opinion on how I'm going about handling an interesting lil situation I've never really faced before. So I met this girl in a class and we've been talking quite a bit ever since. She has a bf who is in school about 4 hours away. For the last couple weeks we'd been talking all night every night either by text or otherwise (mistake number one). We got drunk and hooked up the first time a few weeks back and she sent me a message saying how she felt bad for leading me on (pretty standard for a girl with a bf) and told me she still wanted to hang out but shouldnt spend the night with me. So I decided to see whether or not she would stick to it, and she did. So a couple nights ago after not seein her for a little over a week aside from class I brought her back to my place and we fooled around a little bit, nothing too far, but she made me bring her home again. (partially my fault, poor execution, but thats a separate matter that I can fix myself). Then she sent me the good ol ljbf message. So:
I can tell she likes me more than a friend and she has told me so a number of times but every time we hang out she tries to marginalize it and make it seem like a mistake. After I got the LJBF the natural response was the freeze out and this is day 3.
My question here is given the situation (that I know she doesn't actually just want to be friends but feels bad because of the bf situation) should I continue the freeze out until I can leverage it, or should I go back to chipping away and trying to get her to break up with the bf? (The more we talk, the more she likes me as more than a friend)
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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thedarkpassenger

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I say leave it along...you gotta have respect for her relationship even if she doesn't. Plus, if she's the type of girl that will cheat on her boyfriend and leave him for another man, is that really the kind of guy you want to hook up with?
 

horaholic

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Seek other options. you'll drive yourself crazy wondering if she'll ever pull the trigger. Tell her to give you a call when she's single and rub as many other girls in her face as possible. She's a hor anyway, and she's playing you and her BF. Cut all contact. If anything will make her chase you, thats it.
 
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