Hey fellas, just wanted to stop by and see about your opinion on how I'm going about handling an interesting lil situation I've never really faced before. So I met this girl in a class and we've been talking quite a bit ever since. She has a bf who is in school about 4 hours away. For the last couple weeks we'd been talking all night every night either by text or otherwise (mistake number one). We got drunk and hooked up the first time a few weeks back and she sent me a message saying how she felt bad for leading me on (pretty standard for a girl with a bf) and told me she still wanted to hang out but shouldnt spend the night with me. So I decided to see whether or not she would stick to it, and she did. So a couple nights ago after not seein her for a little over a week aside from class I brought her back to my place and we fooled around a little bit, nothing too far, but she made me bring her home again. (partially my fault, poor execution, but thats a separate matter that I can fix myself). Then she sent me the good ol ljbf message. So:
I can tell she likes me more than a friend and she has told me so a number of times but every time we hang out she tries to marginalize it and make it seem like a mistake. After I got the LJBF the natural response was the freeze out and this is day 3.
My question here is given the situation (that I know she doesn't actually just want to be friends but feels bad because of the bf situation) should I continue the freeze out until I can leverage it, or should I go back to chipping away and trying to get her to break up with the bf? (The more we talk, the more she likes me as more than a friend)
I can tell she likes me more than a friend and she has told me so a number of times but every time we hang out she tries to marginalize it and make it seem like a mistake. After I got the LJBF the natural response was the freeze out and this is day 3.
My question here is given the situation (that I know she doesn't actually just want to be friends but feels bad because of the bf situation) should I continue the freeze out until I can leverage it, or should I go back to chipping away and trying to get her to break up with the bf? (The more we talk, the more she likes me as more than a friend)