"Blank Mind on Dates? She's Dropping Hints You Keep Missing"

The plates get cleared and the silence lands like a brick. You can feel her waiting. Your brain offers up your commute, your job, the weather — topics that have ended more second dates than bad breath.

Here's what most guys never learn: women hand out free conversational material all night long. Tiny clues about what they actually want to discuss. Catch them and you never run out of things to say — because she's telling you what to say next.

Rule 4 of the "22 Rules" trains your ear to catch every single one.

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Your Dating History.... How much does it matter?

grifter

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hey everyone.

When it comes to hitting on babes, we all know our reputation counts. I mean, if you were dating the ugliest girl in school, and suddenly asked the hottest babe in the school, i am pretty sure that would have slimmed down your chances...

But how important is your dating history?

For me, I've never really figured this one out. Girls have asked me out, and quite a few, and i know a lot liked me, but i never wanted to go out with them because i think i was saving myself for someone better... I know everyone has their own flaws, but for some reason i never wanted to tarnish my image.... there was a point in my life where a lot of girls would be after me, and a lot of them good lookin, but not that "oneitis" and so i never went out with them. Recently, i spoke with my "oneitis", who i treated like a queen.... she was the only thing that mattered in my life at the time, now i never think of her. I got her back, and she likes me, but i dont give a **** and dont want a relationship with her...

I think i may be a little insecure, because i dont want people to see me until i am the best... i mean fit body, good life, nice ride, stylish, rich, smartest kid. I mean, if i could not be the best and hang with the best, i rather not associate with anybody. If i can't have it all, i dont want anything.

That's my mentality, and i know it is bad. I honestly don't want a girlfriend right now since i feel that my life is close to perfect. i am happy. But i want more.

So how much do you think this mentality of mine, my dating history and everything. Do you think it will have that much of an effect?

I expect a lot from everything i do. And i think people expect a lot from me, and i dont want people to see that i cannot deliver.

Is this normal or do u think i got problems?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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ScrewIt

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you should get out of that mentality...in the end, it;ll make you a close-minded person.

believe me, no one's perfect, everyone has their flaw or ugly hidden past/secret. You're human, it's alright ot make mistakes, u learn from it and move on. if something happens then it happens, you coulda done something to prevent it, but just get over what happened and move on.
 

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For some reason, i can't force myself to give a **** about Anything anymore. If some guy gets killed i just pick up a piece of cake and say it was terrible. I swear if anyone met me, they will realize i am probably the least caring guy in the world. I used to care a lot about this one girl, and all of my friends, and my family, and everything. But now i dont care about anything... I just want to relax until i die.
 

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The thing that counts most about history is what you learn from it.
 
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