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Younger coworker LJBF after sexs

Stallionstud

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ill try to keep this short, this girl 7 years younger than me that I rarely saw at work put herself in my orbit digitally.
High initial attraction? She was telling her office friends about me. We smashed with Vengeance on second date she made it easy. 1 week later I come over instead of watching a second movie I make out with her we smash ( sex wasn’t as good I was hiding being sick)

Next morning she’s a b!tch, she never initiates contact again. And made sure to tell me how busy she had been when I Pinged her each week. After two weeks I asked her out last minute to somewhere I’m going (she’s busy) I call her out, after two weeks of (busy) Kind of beta I know but I figured best to not drag it out. I just had meanwhile been tagging myself doing fun sh!t without inviting her on FB
I got the “moving too fast” “we should slow it down” LJBF and get this “see where things go from there”

I wasted my time explaining my intentions in two long banter texts with her each time saying no to being “just friends without benefits” I told her if she changes her mind let me know I want to take a date to said event in two weeks blah blah.

She says she’ll think about it and let me know (every one of our dates she framed as “I’ll let you know”) then for the third time she says she wants to just be friends and not date. I again explained why that wouldn’t work, “forget about the date for now, let me know if you change your mind I’d be happy to hear from you maybe we can work something out”

NC has been in effect for 5 days, i did see her at a conference she smiled at me I just stared at her and looked away. (I literally couldn’t smile back) I’ve been trying to meet new plates not getting many bites that I’m interested in, only the uglies.

I guess there’s not much else I can do? What should I have done differently? Remember I work with her so...? What do I do if she starts to breadcrumb me in the future?
 
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you is boytoyz!

try scarcity.
 

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you is boytoyz!

try scarcity.
Good advice, I do so hate being that way but it’s definitely where I went wrong. I bet she’s thinking i’d Be over there in 15 minuets if asked. And I probably would of if sex was involved. I am ready to focus of meeting new prospects though for sure
 

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She was only into it for fun and games. Treat it as such yourself.
Nothing serious going on here unless she initiates later…
 
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She was only into it for fun and games. Treat it as such yourself.
Nothing serious going on here unless she initiates later…
I get that and I mostly have. But I truly believe she’s lame enough that I got no competition moving on her. It’s a head scratcher, why would she end the fun and games with LJBF. I did not screw up that bad, I played the boundaries cool.
 

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She doesn’t like you enough to move forward with you, or she’s giving you a massive sh|t test.…
Find out what’s up…
 

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She doesn’t like you enough to move forward with you, or she’s giving you a massive sh|t test.…
Find out what’s up…
Possibly both, I’ve considered this. I’m out of her league though which is what confounds me!
 
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