"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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"you were too busy! lol!" retort?

newbie221

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Background info:

This girl and I just met, agree to meet at a club.
I'm there with my friends, and she brings a friend, cool.
Then this guy and some of his friends meet up to, she obviously has this dude on the go. (probably just like me, he picked her up too)

So now she has me on one side and this guy on the other, and she starts getting aloof and doing the I'm the queen bee, fight over me type thing. (I hate hot girls for this)

This isn't working for me, so I just walk away and ignore her, and spend the rest of the night chatting up other girls in the club, the other guy stays and panders to her the whole night.

At the end of the night we cross paths while I'm saying good bye to another girl, who is giving me her #, I had been watching her now and then and could tell she was bored with the other guy's company and I smile and say "having fun?" she goes "its been kind of a boring night" and "where have you been? we didn't talk very much" (the place is not big she saw me with other girls the whole night)

I shrug and say "maybe next time"

The the next day she sends me this txt:

"To bad we didn't get to hang out... you were too busy! lol"

Question:
I can tell I got her sore for ignoring her and not being her ego masuse, and I always like having the last word, especially with silly girls like this... ideas guys?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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sodbuster

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You only call out a woman on her games when you want to lose them. But you could say you seemed to have all the company you needed,if you wanted to be with me,you could have lost him.
 

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Yeah in the end, I suppose it doesn't really matter - I got a day 2 arranged with the other girl I met actually. Still, I was just wondering if anyone had any ideas off the top of their head as a retort.
 

horaholic

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sodbuster said:
You only call out a woman on her games when you want to lose them. But you could say you seemed to have all the company you needed,if you wanted to be with me,you could have lost him.
I respectfully disagree. In my experience, when you call a girl out, it boosts there IL, provided its not done in a needy, jealous or possessive way. It stirs their emotions up, and thats what attracts girls.

Personally, I would say "Oh, Im sorry. Were you expecting me to compete with homeboy for your attention all night?" (jokingly, yet serious) "you're not that special, babe. So, how come you didnt claw that girls eyes out, then drag me into the broomcloset? Im sad that you didnt :("
 

Kal0051

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well you were busy so I'd just make a joke stating that. And next time try and get a day2 with just the 2 of you, that way there won't be any orbiting chodes and hopefully her ego will deflate.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Vypros

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Well, first of all, let me just say that you handled the whole thing fantastically. Great job. Sounds like you have her attracted to you.

My main advice would be to watch getting into a text convo with her. Yeah, you could have a small back and forth with her, but end it quickly. As well as you handled the situation, you probably already know this, though, but I did want to remind you in case you didn't.

As far as a retort?

Can't think of anything that doesn't sound lame. lol

I was thinking of something like "Yeah, I had to beat them off with a stick" or "I was putting out fires all over the place" but that sounds kinda dumb. This is part of the reason I'm not a fan of texting to build rapport. Kind of hard to do that using twitter-like responses. lol
 

pua1989

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i wouldve responded with "fúckkkkkk yea i was woman" seriously.
 

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retort= "You could have been the lucky one keeping me 'busy'. Oh well maybe next time ;)"

or

"Yeah....all I did all night was point to my crotch and say 'the line starts here'. It worked wonders ;)"


Remember: The winky face is key.


Or better yet don't give her the benefit of a response. That curveball would have her staggering if she's as hot as you say she is.
 
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