“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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"You play a good game"

IBreatheSpears

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I received this comment from a girl who's dating one of my friends yesterday. It was the second time we actually met and spoke but the fourth time we've seen one another. The first time, I found her attractive and I got a positive vibe from her. Yesterday I was talking to my friend and she came up and re-introduced herself because she thought I didn't remember her due to my being drunk the first time we met, and not talking to her the other two times I saw her. I told her I wasn't that drunk and that I remembered exactly who she was, and all she said was "You play a good game".

I'm not considering trying anything with her because I really like that friend, I'm just very intrigued by what she said. I did ask her but I don't think she heard me because someone else was speaking at the same time. Either way I didn't get an answer and I don't want to give the impression I've been thinking about her all day by asking her again when I probably see her tonight.

I realise that it will probably be difficult to figure out without a lot of context, but I've provided as much as I can and I thought it would be worth seeing if anyone has any ideas.
 

What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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You play a good game means she feels you were playing games by "pretending" like you did not remember her when you ignored her the two times after your initial meeting. You later tell her that you remember her so of course she was confused and thought you were messing with her deliberately to get a reaction which in the dating world is called game playing but can also be simply known as game if you do it right. Which you did in this case because it was not obvious that you were doing it intentionally so it got her worried emotionally and spiked attraction and curiosity.
 

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Thanks for the answer, it does make sense and the idea that she thought I was pretending did occur to me. I actually wasn't ignoring her intentionally, though, it "just happened". It seems I've stumbled upon a game tactic though; it's like a special case of hot/cold or push/pull (which I used by accident to get my last girlfriend - she probably thought I was playing a game but I actually just found her annoying so I avoided her a lot of the time).

I feel like I'm finally reaching the point of having decent game. It's a good feeling. There are multiple girls on my radar now, and a few months ago there were none. Obviously this girl is off my hit-list, though, being that she's with one of my good friends, and by the time they break up and enough time has passed that I think it's reasonable to go after her, her attraction to me will probably have waned.
 

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IBreatheSpears said:
I told her I wasn't that drunk and that I remembered exactly who she was, and all she said was "You play a good game".
You were introduced and didnt do anything fancy. She is projecting her interest seeing things that arent there (your "good game").

I feel like you are over analyzing this and getting caught on her fast trying to figure out little things like this, for the most part sounds like she wanted to flirt in that moment.


IBreatheSpears said:
It seems I've stumbled upon a game tactic though; it's like a special case of hot/cold or push/pull.
I disagree with this, it only worked because SHE was interested and was trying to rationalize how what you were doing were IOIs. There is always the chaser (game player) and the chased (prize). Dont go learning game tactics when you are being seduced or you will be called out like this girl is on SS. I had a high interest girl turn my mundane texts into excuses to flirt. e.g. "what time does the party start?" "w/e you want ;)". Let her see what she wants to see but dont start playing games to please her or you will be on here alot more trying to figure out how to game her back hahaha :)

You "game" is solid because you are indifferent to the outcome and are just going about your business having fun. As far as I can tell you werent even thinking much about the girl before until she planted this seed into you.
 
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