"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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"You have to call me when you come back"

CuddleJunkie

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So currently I have two, I would say, highly interested girls in this situation. One of them, I would say a 6, lives in another city I was 2 or so weekends ago and to which I'm going again in 2,3 weeks.
About the other girl, a german 7 with tits that just make me WOW like if I was Trump: Here in Spain today starts "Semana Santa", a religious festivity, and I have more than a week of vacation, so I'm moving to my hometown. So the girl made me promise I would call her as soon as I come back.

How do I play this? Won't the interest get cold? If yes, and supposing I get the dates, will I have to start on a lower point than where I left things (rebuilding the interest, I mean)?
Thank you guys!
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Depends if you banged them, need more context. I say do not overthink and do what you want and call them when you want.
 

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Depends if you banged them, need more context. I say do not overthink and do what you want and call them when you want.
Nope, just had some drinks when I met them. Also, I agree with the "stop over-thinking" stuff, but I'm learning all this, so it's not like I'm over-thinking things, I want to understand how game works to get good at it.

And this pops another question in my mind, if I'm walking besides a girl and she bumps various times into me, is this a green light to lead her with my hand in her lower back? I thought that in the moment, but I didn't have the balls the try lol.
 

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A girl has high interest level, wants to see you and you don't know what to do? What you do is, you make a date, take her out, at least two different activities, kino all the way and go as far as you can.

Read the message as: "You have to fcuk me when you get back".

She can't get clearer than that.

When out with a girl, you're always leading.
Be it, holding her hand as you walk in front of her or your hand on her waist as you guide her through the crowd.

Don't be scared to lead, it's your birth right!
 

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I appreciate the replies, but I think the point is being missed.
We know girls live in the moment, so over this week she will meet who knows how many other guys that she could get a high interest in too, decreasing mine. So I'm asking if there is something you can do to keep the thing hot, and if you have to start from a lower point when you meet her.

A lot of guys come here asking for a particular girl because they have her in a pedestal or whatever, and so most of the advice is "don't overthink", "just **** he", etc. This is not the case, I want to understand game, I want to become really good at this, so I'm not asking about particular situations with particular women, but about what effect interrupting an interaction for a kind of long period of time may have in the seduction procces.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Got you.

Whenever you take a girl out, be it first date, first date after two months of NC, second date, fifth date, you get the idea. . .

So it's based on how she acts. All you do is plan the night, know what is happening and when, lead her and kino. The more you kino, the more comfortable she gets, the more comfortable she gets, the more "fun" she has.

Your composure is always "I'm having fun" that's why you want the date to be about something you actually enjoy. You're smiling, you're being nice with the wait staff, you're looking in her eyes and giving her full attention, you're removing yourself to go to the bathroom, so she can feel your absence.

Let her worry about impressing you, not the other way around.

It doesn't matter how many men crosses her path, what matters is what can she do for you?
 

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I appreciate the replies, but I think the point is being missed.
We know girls live in the moment, so over this week she will meet who knows how many other guys that she could get a high interest in too, decreasing mine. So I'm asking if there is something you can do to keep the thing hot, and if you have to start from a lower point when you meet her.
Do...nothing. Once you've made that first impression (hot, mysterious guy from out of town), any further contact will diminish your value in that role. And you're long distance--she doesn't have you on a relationship pathway. She knows (hopes) you're talking to other girls while you're back home--you just hit her up when you're in her city. The type of guys she's shopping for locally probably aren't your competition.

After you've slept with an out-of-town girl you can ping her from time to time to keep her warm; but your most leverage will be from the time you meet her to the time you sex her (after sex has taken place, it becomes a matter of time before she either finds something local).
 

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Nope, just had some drinks when I met them. Also, I agree with the "stop over-thinking" stuff, but I'm learning all this, so it's not like I'm over-thinking things, I want to understand how game works to get good at it.

And this pops another question in my mind, if I'm walking besides a girl and she bumps various times into me, is this a green light to lead her with my hand in her lower back? I thought that in the moment, but I didn't have the balls the try lol.
I always put my hand in their lower middle back and guide. This can be on a first date when I am guiding them to the table. Don't wait for interest clues. Just do it. She won't bite you.
 
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