I'm sure that this has been discussed before in one of the countless threads here. But I just want to restate it in a way that makes better sense to me and (hopefully) some people here. It's something that I didn't quite get for a long time.
In order for a girl to see you as a sexual object, you have to be a little bit threatening. She has to wonder about what your intentions are and what's on your mind. You must be able to look her square in the eye and communicate with your body language that you want to get it on.
For the longest time, I was full of smiles and I was very well-mannered and gentlemanly. I completely diffused any and all tensions with girls I was talking to. That's why I had absolutely no problem befriending girls, but I had a tough time banging them. Girls loved to talk to me, they liked my company, but they didn't see me as a sexual outlet.
In order to turn on a girl, there has to be a little tension. Why do you think girls enjoy the company of gay guys? Because there is no tension whatsoever. Sure, they love to hang out with gay guys, but there is no attraction. Conversely, girls go crazy for the "bad boys" because they're not afraid to communicate their sexuality. Lately, I have been successful with women because I've made this small but important realization.
And I don't suggest learning routines to come off as being a "bad boy." I think these canned lines etc. are very plastic and people are smarter than you think; they can sense when you're not really being authentic.
Rather than trying to pretend to be someone you're not, just work on being more real and more assertive. Not just with women, but with EVERYONE. Never be ashamed for what you feel (sexual desire is a natural emotion in every normal human being). Don't be afraid to let the girl know what's on your mind (but show her using non-verbal communication).
In order for a girl to see you as a sexual object, you have to be a little bit threatening. She has to wonder about what your intentions are and what's on your mind. You must be able to look her square in the eye and communicate with your body language that you want to get it on.
For the longest time, I was full of smiles and I was very well-mannered and gentlemanly. I completely diffused any and all tensions with girls I was talking to. That's why I had absolutely no problem befriending girls, but I had a tough time banging them. Girls loved to talk to me, they liked my company, but they didn't see me as a sexual outlet.
In order to turn on a girl, there has to be a little tension. Why do you think girls enjoy the company of gay guys? Because there is no tension whatsoever. Sure, they love to hang out with gay guys, but there is no attraction. Conversely, girls go crazy for the "bad boys" because they're not afraid to communicate their sexuality. Lately, I have been successful with women because I've made this small but important realization.
And I don't suggest learning routines to come off as being a "bad boy." I think these canned lines etc. are very plastic and people are smarter than you think; they can sense when you're not really being authentic.
Rather than trying to pretend to be someone you're not, just work on being more real and more assertive. Not just with women, but with EVERYONE. Never be ashamed for what you feel (sexual desire is a natural emotion in every normal human being). Don't be afraid to let the girl know what's on your mind (but show her using non-verbal communication).
