You are not trying to be liked you are trying to get laid

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I think a lot of newbies have the wrong mindset. So I thought I would give a bit of advice that is aimed at helping them succeed at pickup in particular daygame. You can not really do pickup if you are trying to be liked by people.

I am not saying you should intentionally do things that make people mad or that make you look creepy obviously. Just saying that pickup is not all roses and It's inevitable you are going to receive some criticism from someone.

It's part of the game.
 
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What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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In a sexual context a lot of women respond positively to bad behaviours

You smack her a$$ and she knows you're down to fvck and probably fvck hard

Her logical brain is telling her you violated her but her illogical brain is making her panties wet at the thought of what else you may do

Women tend to respond a lot better to illogical behaviours from men , behaviours they can't control or manipulate easily

Obviously this is a extreme example and comes with inherent risks if you mis read the situation or person

but whenever I've made the call do take that risk its usually paid off
 

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In a sexual context a lot of women respond positively to bad behaviours

You smack her a$$ and she knows you're down to fvck and probably fvck hard

Her logical brain is telling her you violated her but her illogical brain is making her panties wet at the thought of what else you may do

Women tend to respond a lot better to illogical behaviours from men , behaviours they can't control or manipulate easily

Obviously this is a extreme example and comes with inherent risks if you mis read the situation or person

but whenever I've made the call do take that risk its usually paid off
With inherent risks? You mean like going to jail? Are you used to doing that?
 

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You tap a "me too" type on the arse and you could be looking at a sexual assault charge in this day n age

I’m trying to understand where you’re drawing the line here.

Are you talking about women you already know, where there is obvious mutual chemistry and escalation already happening? Or are you talking about doing this to random women during daygame?

Because those are very different situations. If a guy misreads it with a stranger, that is not just “criticism” or “part of the game” — that can become a legal problem very quickly.

So when you say the risk has usually paid off, what kind of context are you actually talking about?
 
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Women tend to respond much better to men's illogical behavior, behaviors they can't easily control or manipulate.
They'll usually respond with a test for the man.

Her logical brain is telling her you violated her, but her illogical brain is wetting her panties at the thought of what else you might do.
This is why so many women have rape fantasies.
This is also why LTR's are flawed.
They want a "healthy" LTR but in reality what you see that goes on and on, it's the same plot, and they write that too in romance books. The toxic/narcisist/psycho guy get them hokked for life

I can give you an example.
You all know I'm a cheerful, friendly, good guy.
So I helped a woman carry her bags one day, and my arm muscles were bulging.
I was wearing short sleeves.

In this case, her logical mind was telling her I was a really good guy, but the illogical part was that she wanted those hands on her body. In this case, it wasn't a direct thing, but imagination/fantasy.

Her logical brain is telling her you violated her, but her illogical brain is wetting her panties at the thought of what else you might do.
It would be awesome to get to know more example to this, like actions men make, in a list.


You give her a $$ and she knows you're ready to ****, and probably **** hard.
In the modern era, I'd give up on doing anything too naughty with women you don't know. The law is weird, my friend.
And I don't know, but it's just my impression, but women, at least the best ones, want to see that side of a man, only on certain occasions, namely in bed.
As for the rest, it could be that she might prefer a man who is communicative and not so impulsive.
 
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I think a lot of newbies have the wrong mindset. So I thought I would give a bit of advice that is aimed at helping them succeed at pickup in particular daygame. You can not really do pickup if you are trying to be liked by people.

I am not saying you should intentionally do things that make people mad or that make you look creepy obviously. Just saying that pickup is not all roses and It's inevitable you are going to receive some criticism from someone.

It's part of the game.
I’d tend to agree with this.
The popular DayGame methods are generally way too beige and nice-guy afaics. With getting laid , if a guy wants big results (short timeframe sex) he’s gonna have to really change his behaviours and make big bold and risky moves. For sure in bars and clubs to get laid a dude has to be bold and have a strong energy to cut through. I suppose that’s what chicks call ‘Extremely confident’ ie talking a very strong lead and assuming the sale off the bat.

a chick can control the pacing of how soon she will put out. That’s their perogative. Best to have her fantasising about the prospect from the initial strong impression tho, imo.
Otherwise she’ll just forget the guy afterwards.
 
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