This chick from POF that I talked to on the site last night hit me up this evening. The convo had a good vibe and we were laughing. All of a sudden, I hear a beep on my phone and it was my mother on the other line. I told Adrianna (the pof chick) to hold on for a min. I talked to my mother and she was talking so much that I tried my best to end it quickly. When I finished my convo with my mom, I noticed the chick hung up. I can understand when she was being placed on hold for 3 mins. I felt bad. Decided to call back, no answer... I called again about 15 mins later, no answer. Then I heard her voice mail and it says "Hey this is NICOLE...." I'm like wtf did I just hear??? Anyway, I only called twice and no phone call back. What should I do in this situation? End it or make contact again? I'm leaning towards ending it until I get a call or text back.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
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probably a fat/ugly chick using a cute chicks photos in order to get off while talking to guys on the phone, it happens
There was no need to call twice...you could have just called back and left a message that said "hey it's -your name- sorry it was my mom on the other line and she likes to talk. Call me back when you get this, my number is -"
Then she could decide whether or not to call you back.
Then she could decide whether or not to call you back.
Because that is basic human interaction with a telephone. You call someone, they do not answer, you leave a message to explain why you are calling and request a phone call back. You don't have to leave your number, because she called you but you can at least leave a message.NYCJoey22 said:
example: Let's say you called a doctor's office to make an appointment...and the receptionist is on the other line so you get the voicemail. Do you hang up? Or do you leave a message? If you want the person to call you back you leave a message, you don't spam call.
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Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
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^^^ Both responses above are fine. There would have been no harm in leaving a message, but she knew it was you calling back. If she gets butt-hurt over a small thing like this, consider this early warning a blessing.
Life happens. Sorry if another call temporarily put the little princess on hold.
Life happens. Sorry if another call temporarily put the little princess on hold.
It's just a rule of thumb I have (developed through bitter experience), but the girls who initiated voice calls before a face to face meet-up all proved to be more trouble than they were worth. It just seems to go hand in hand with an intense, neurotic, and needy personality - it presumes a level of intimacy that just doesn't exist at that point.
I remember at least one of them was exactly as foreverAFC described, i.e. "a fat/ugly chick using a cute chicks photos in order to get off while talking to guys on the phone" I cannot believe I actually let that happen, seven years ago mind you.
I remember at least one of them was exactly as foreverAFC described, i.e. "a fat/ugly chick using a cute chicks photos in order to get off while talking to guys on the phone" I cannot believe I actually let that happen, seven years ago mind you.
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Just another way of attention wh0ring. Just hope she calls back. Until then, go ghost.
Case closed.
Case closed.