"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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WTF man I can't smile for some reason

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This is something strange I can't seem to shake. For some reason I just can't smile when I'm with people lately. It's not that I'm mad about anything, but it definitely looks like it from the perspective of others. This is hurting me hard with the ladies. It just feels like I'm uptight and just can't chill out lately. Maybe it's just anxiety, but I can't seem to get over it. It feels like my face is like stuck in a scowl position if that makes any sense.

Anyway this is pretty weird, but it's annoying as hell. It's been bothering me a lot much lately.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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You're just pissed at everyone. Fvck em.
 

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slaog said:
It sounds like some psycological block thats become a habit
Yea that describes it perfectly. As soon as I start becoming conscious about it it just gets worse.

It's frickin weird. When I'm talking to some dude they're like wtf, lighten up or they think I'm threatening them in some way and they get all nervous. With girls, it's almost like they become afraid of me. I think it's intimidating or something.

I'm not pissed off at anyone or depressed, I guess just very uptight. I'll try to meditate or something.
 

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You might be taking yourself too seriously.

Next time you go out, just go out and have fun. Forget about trying to impress your friends or ladies but just do what you want to do in order to have fun.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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It's all in your head.

Try meditation like you said to clear out your mind. Still your mind.

Then try this. Think about the last time you were truly happy. A childhood memory. The time you won some event or prize. The last time you got laid. Whatever it is..relive that moment in your head in a quiet relaxed place. Fully enjoy that moment until you feel a smile come to your face. Hold on to that moment while your alone at home. Feel greatful for the things you have, your health, your family, your job or education. Feel greatful for being alive and hold on to that moment. Think about these things on a regular basis. Then start taking that moment and those feelings with you outside the house.

Force yourself to say hi and smile at every person you make contact with. Transfer that feeling to everyone you see, think positive thoughts about that person. He seems nice, she seems like a good person. Today is a good day. Do not think about your self and cut off negative thoughts quickly. Keep practicing until it becomes a habit. Good luck.
 

women haze

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**** the world
 
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