"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Wtf? How should I handle this..?

Finch

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I'm so confused about what's going on. There is this girl that I've asked to prom and I'm currently interested in.. anyway, we've been hitting it off really well. We're getting pretty close and I know for a fact that she's interested in me for sex and for a relationship.

So what I'm confused about is this: Today is my birthday and I have received no calls, no texts, no visits, no nothing. I know we've just started this fling, but you still would think that she would do SOMETHING. I've had people call/text me today I barely knew or didn't even know at all. What's the deal with that? Especially because on the phone last night I was talking to her about my birthday today. I was giving her crap and I asked what she's doing for my birthday and she told me she had something planned out.

Well we didn't have school today because we seriously had 8 inches of snow come down in a few hours. So I didn't get the chance to see her and I still haven't heard from her.

What do I do? Should I call her up and give her ****? Do I just play it cool.. I don't know. What do you think?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Maybe she froze to death?

Pal, you're getting pretty emo here. Do you really want to go back to being that AFC now? Give her a couple of days; if she doesn't get ahold of you then, call her up and give her crap about it.

Personally I wouldn't expect someone I just met to do anything real special for my birthday :rolleyes:
 

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Let it go, man. Pick your battles. You don't want to give her a clue as to what pushes your buttons because she'll start treating you like a video game controller.

Focus on this prom thing. But don't plan it all out in your mind ad nauseum because regardless of how many different scenarios you think of, what will ultimately happen is something you didn't expect.
 

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I guess you're right. It just seems strange after the conversation we had last night about her doing stuff for me.

Thanks.
 

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hey finch. I f i were you, just focus on fun in the prom. never mind if she doesn't remember your birthday. Who knows you'll be surprised later. But then Don't remind her about you. You'll just came out as needy. Stay in control. Come on, do it in the prom night.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Originally posted by Finch
I'm so confused about what's going on. There is this girl that I've asked to prom and I'm currently interested in.. anyway, we've been hitting it off really well. We're getting pretty close and I know for a fact that she's interested in me for sex and for a relationship.

So what I'm confused about is this: Today is my birthday and I have received no calls, no texts, no visits, no nothing. I know we've just started this fling, but you still would think that she would do SOMETHING. I've had people call/text me today I barely knew or didn't even know at all. What's the deal with that? Especially because on the phone last night I was talking to her about my birthday today. I was giving her crap and I asked what she's doing for my birthday and she told me she had something planned out.

Well we didn't have school today because we seriously had 8 inches of snow come down in a few hours. So I didn't get the chance to see her and I still haven't heard from her.

What do I do? Should I call her up and give her ****? Do I just play it cool.. I don't know. What do you think?
Well, maybe what she has planned is something that can only be done in person. Since school was cancelled due to bad weather, not much you can do, really. Although it is a little strange that she didn't call you...just hang in there and see what happens tomorrow. Under the circumstances of the storm, it shouldn't be the end of the world if she's a day late acknowledging your birthday in person.
 
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