WTF did i do wrong?i know i did something..

[slickaz]

Guys i really need help here..quick:

ok so this chic i been getting to know. not yet banged.

i like her, shes cool, pretty all the good stuff. blah blah blah.
but shes also mentally clever, she makes me laugh with her jokes when i thought women didnt have a sense of humour.

anyway she called me today to see how im going overseas.
up until now shes been my side project with nothing happening yet physically.

we talk, she says shes getting an apartment soon, so now i can come stay over at hers etc.
all good!

continue talking, and the last time we hung out, a friend of mine met us on our 'date' and i intro'd her as kim kardashian, and she very quickly hit me back with yeh he's reggie bush. <kim kardashians bf>
my friend i met then said, oh she's the only you talked about earlier..IDIOT!
anyway i changed the topic real quick there and got on with our date.

forward to the conversation:

out of the blue she asked "so the other day, you're friend at the mall, when u intro'd me as kim kardashian, you been talkin about me to ppl?"
i said "hahaha isnt it bad nuff i ring you twice a week n meet up with you twice more? what more shall i do? more hints?"

then she said this:
"well i am so nice to you, more so than to anyother guy coz i think lifes been pretty harsh on you and you deserve so much better, i know what you mean and no you dont have to do anymore than what u doin"

Now that to me came across almost like she was hanging out with me out of PITY
so i said :well her listen im not good at these speeches but i dont want you to this out of pity or coz ur sad, life is a b!tch to everyone they gotta fight. i do this coz i like hangin out wit u, uve got qualities i look for in ppl, mentally and character wise. and to answer ur question, no i dont tell ppl anything about my life if they ask i say it dont concern them coz what we do is our biz"

SILENCE...

then i said "ok i realise what i said might have come across as offensive but it wasnt intended, i just spoke my mind..so now you know.."

still SILENCE..

then dial tone..

WTF!!!
i mean WTF!!!!! WTF WTF WTF!!!!

 

[MrGold]

Dude you may have come across as a little AFC, as in, shes hanging with you. The way you need to portray it is making her think it was you making time for her and therefore she values time with you.. However, something tells me you've entered the dreaded friends zone.. Dum dum dum!

Make yourself less available and find other people to hang out with... That way you wont come across as clingy if that's what shes afraid you've become?

Hope that helps, Gold.

 

[slickaz]

thanks bro, you may be right. although i dont really hang out with her too much.
i mean the most ive ever done is call her twice in one week and only to organize seeing her.
she shows interest in wanting to do more by inviting me over to stay over etc. and calls me when i fly o/s etc. agreed theres 1 other girl that does that.
i also think she maybe waiting for me to make a move first? which im happy to do when i return home but till then i cant do much.

but ive decided to take ur advice and not text/call/email/fb for a while just to see how she reacts. she knows i dont take being hung up on easily. so if she doesnt call back then i guess its another one off my list.

 

[slickaz]

ok so i havent contacted her since she hung up on me.
now just two mins ago i get a text from her saying this, to me again, she's been very careful but also i think shes conveying smtn..

"im sorry abt earlier,my phone died and i didnt kno wat the last thing u said was, i did hear what u said abt what think of me, and i dunno wat to say to it, firstly n most imp altho i feel bad for wat u hv been thru in ur past,it NO WAY reflects on how n wat i think of u or act towards u. i met u b4 i knew abt ur past, ive told u abt the ruff times ive been thru n my past, ive never said that to others bcoz they'd fake their reaction but i kno ur not like that,also,I FeEL THE SAME WAY ABOUT YOU AS YOU DO ME. and ps: i hope u kno i was only jokin abt u talkin to other ppl abt me,its cute that u do, if u did that is.ill call u later tonyt k.dont stress at work!mwah"

WTF! females are confusing!

 

[slaog]

It's turning into a soap opera from nothing.


What you have to do is brush it off. Show her it doesn't matter to you. When she said she felt sorry for you I would have laughed and said "thats funny because I don't feel sorry for me". Or "thats cute" or something. You want to show her that you are mentally strong and if something bad happens it means nothing to you.


You also want to show her that you're in control and her words won't have an effect on you but they did which means she now knows it too.


Just keep the conversation light and fun and don't react to things she says. It looks like she likes you so you still have other chances with her.

 

[Gangster Of Love]

How long have you known this one? Why haven't you escalated? When a chick wants to spend time with you, yet you don't escalate to move things forward, as in more than JUST friends, they start putting you in a different category, the "sexually non-threatening" type of man.

You have two choices, one, escalate and get more of a physical comitment and see if there is sexual chemistry. Two, keep it going at the rate you have, keep playing little games/drama without physical escalation and develop a serious case of one-itis for yourself.

 

[Sandow]

Yea, it sounds like she was just joking with you when she said "you've been talking about me to other people."

Obviously she likes you, i would try to escalate, now is a good time since her interest level is high.