"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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n00bPimp

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So Im in a class with 200 students, and there are a lot of hot girls in this class. I almost never sit on the same spot b/c i wanna get to know as many of the babes as possible. Semester is almost over, and so far i havent scored with any of the hot girls, just 1 HB-6. So heres the deal, i know it may sound cheesy at first but im confident on my approach :)
Ok so i pick a hot chick to sit next to, then i write her a note like this:
"Hey hottie,
you seem like you'd make a nice friend.
Whats your name and phone#?
-o.m."

Heres where i need some help. Ive tried it 2 times so far with negative results. (1 says she doesnt give out her # to strangers, another didnt return the note). Any advice?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Don't do the note thing. If she's anywhere where you can see each other, do it verbally. Notes hardly EVER work. That disney **** fed us a lot of lies.
 

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n00bPimp said:
"Hey hottie,
(Contradicts)
you seem like you'd make a nice friend.

Whats your name and phone#?
(1/20 chance of working)
-o.m."
You're sending conflicting messages.
You've told her that her value is higher than yours.
You seem needy for friends.
You also seem creepy asking a total stranger for contact information.

Do your business outside after class, set up a study date and actually study for an hour or two. If she thinks you're cool she want to have dinner with you, and its pretty much down hill from there.
 

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if the girl has never noticed you before, that's not gonna work

and she's probably gonna avoid you after that

can you figure out why?
 

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Maybe you should do it less directly... I mean maybe ask her for her name and become friends first and like another poster said ask her on a study date if she agrees then while your there just do what you normally would do and at the end ask her for her number. Good luck.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I admire the balls in asking for the # right away.
But I would've been in awe if he did it verbally the same way.

Seriously, before you try build some kind of rapport first. Make sure she atleast knows your name before you go for the #.
 

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She has to have a reason to give you her #. If you want to write a note, write a joke or some funny comment. See if you can get her to engage in a game of note exchanging in class. Then when class is over, talk to her outside, introduce yourself, etc. etc.

Then say "Hey, I should give you a call sometime." If she's interested she'll give you her #
 

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Rhoto said:
You're sending conflicting messages.
You've told her that her value is higher than yours.
You seem needy for friends.
You also seem creepy asking a total stranger for contact information.

Do your business outside after class, set up a study date and actually study for an hour or two. If she thinks you're cool she want to have dinner with you, and its pretty much down hill from there.
This hits the nail on the head! :rockon:

Passing notes?! Come on now, you're in college dammit! This definitely ain't 1989! That movie sh*t ain't gonna cut it, buddy! Don't pass notes, makes you look like a stalker with no balls. :nono: Not only that, you look like you're insecure because you're pretty much having other guys do your dirty work. Don't pull that dumb sh*t, or you WILL face disaster.

You must build some kind of rapport or attraction before going in for the kill. Otherwise, that sh*t will blow up in your face. :yes: Got it, pal?

Good Luck! :cheer:
 
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