wow... i was betrayed...

[taiwanesedude227]

Ok I really need some help because I've got some serious problems, i just found out none of my "friends" at school like me ( they got one of their friends to tell me they dont want me to hang out with them ). Now I basically have no close guy friends at school except for people in younger grades, though I do have some friends at other schools. I've been trying to find people to hang out with but they're all already in their little groups and they don't seem that interested in becoming close friends with me... they're already satisfied with their social lives. I have no idea how to become good friends with other people at this point even though I am a pretty chill/funny guy. I really have no idea how to get out of this situation, someone please help. Also i'd appreciate a PM so i can describe the problem more fully over AIM or something. i really need to get out of this, i've been without people to hang out with for too long. it is sooooooo hard for me to make new friends, i just have no idea how to make people interested in becoming friends with me when they already have their own friends and lives

 

[JH6]

friendster? myspace?

join a gym, or a sports team?

join a club?

 

[taiwanesedude227]

Thanks for the advice, I appreciate it but I've already considered most of those options. Tryouts for sports are finished so I'd have to wait a while before that, plus I'm not really good enough at any sports to make the team. I will try to make the team when tryouts come, however. Thing is, I'm an impatient guy and I want to have people to hang out with now, without having to wait to make a sports team. As for clubs, club signup day was a long time ago so people in the club probably all know each other... I'll seriously look into that too though. There actually are a few action-oriented clubs that interest me. I'm not too knowledgeable about myspace and friendster, how would i use those to get friends in real life?

 

[superman2k6]

why didn't any of your friends like you?

 

[DarthJuan]

Originally posted by taiwanesedude227
Thanks for the advice, I appreciate it but I've already considered most of those options. Tryouts for sports are finished so I'd have to wait a while before that, plus I'm not really good enough at any sports to make the team. I will try to make the team when tryouts come, however. Thing is, I'm an impatient guy and I want to have people to hang out with now, without having to wait to make a sports team. As for clubs, club signup day was a long time ago so people in the club probably all know each other... I'll seriously look into that too though. There actually are a few action-oriented clubs that interest me. I'm not too knowledgeable about myspace and friendster, how would i use those to get friends in real life?

Do what YOU want to do.
In high school, I was friends with everyone. Didn't matter if they were jocks, nerds, stoners, whatever.

Have a lot of interests. Pursue those, and you'll meet people. I was involved with music, guitar, bands, baseball, football, tae kwon do, computer club, art, partying, student council ****...whatever I felt like doing.

Do want you want with passion and people will gravitate toward your energy.

 

[taiwanesedude227]

Originally posted by superman2k6
why didn't any of your friends like you?

This isn't really relevant to the topic, but it's because before I came to this site I was always the stupid, goofy kid that got pushed around by everyone so my friends liked me but they kind of bullied me. I started standing up for myself and fighting back so I think this caused to them to hate me.

 

[WesCottII]

I had the same deal. The guys at school thought they were the sh!t, i becamse the most cut gut in the school, and had women flocking over me, so they got jeleous and left. I got new friends at work, who were a whole ton better.

 

[Noctlos]

just move on, dude. I know how you feel. Just be nice to everyone, and friends will come your way. Being an onry tempered kid won't get you anywhere. And if people pick on you don't fight back, you don't want to be friends with people who are jerks.

 

[DJ_Trainee_10]

-If people make fun of you, laugh with them, and make a witty remark back. Nothing too offensive but nothing weak either.
-Be nice.
-Make friends with ANYONE, not out of desperation, but because if you do their friends will be friends with you and so on and so on.
-Don't pull the whole bad ass thing with guys. It may work with the chicks but not the guys.
-Join clubs, as mentioned before, to help meet people with your interests.
-I don't know if you have this problem, but have some respect for yourself. If you respect yourself others will respect you.
-Perhaps, people will start to think your an OK guy.

Not everyone's going to like you, just forget them. You're a Don Juan, anyway, you'll get more chicks then them (hopefully).

 

[Phat]

You need to find someone with the same interests as you.

Like-

Girls *
Sports

Or w/e it is.

 

[MightyMate]

Just find a chick that You like and go in LTR. You will steal her friends. Ha ha ha.

 

[Fitch]

You're pathetic; stop feeling sorry for yourself!

You should be glad this frivolous. You were not betrayed at all; they were never your friends to begin with.
It's for the best.

Now, all you have to do is just enjoy life without anyone trying to bring you down -- like your "friends." Live it up. We only live once, so LIVE.

Why do you NEED friends asap? Just chill out, and things will fit into place.

Enjoy life at school as a renewed person, one who is in control of one's destiny. One who does not take cr*p from jealous individuals.

High School is practice for the real deal -- college. High School, in general, is very frivolous. I, personally, cannot wait until I graduate and move on to college where I can meet awesome people, and develop mentally (and physically). Have hope. Have confidence in yourself. We all have something to offer to everyone. Find the right person to befriend.

High School is yours; your experience, and no one can take that away from you. So do what you want to do, true friends will follow.

Or, you can always crawl back to those nice group of kids who enjoyed to spend their time picking on you and making fun of you at the expense of your dignity, social status, etc.

Good luck with your decision. Happy New Years.

 

[splinterkb]

Find a guy that likes sports and girls.. that'll really narrow it down.