Wow. Coldness is entering my soul, blackening my heart. Please read, about my girl

[The_Reaper]

Here's the deal.

Important background info: my girlfriend is studying abroad, away from her home country, and has been there for about 9 months.

I looked at my girlfriend's emails just now (I know, not good, but I could not resist when I noticed she accidentally saved the password on the computer's guest account) and some guy is writing to her as if they both love each other. He says repeatedly he is dying to see her, he dreams about her, remembers waking up beside her every morning and misses it, and loves her sooo much. (But he did say "do you have a boyfriend? I'm so jealous!!!)

I was BLOWN AWAY. First instinct: dump her. Next thought: her replies were neutral; she spoke to him like someone she has affection for, like a puppy or another girl(friend). Third thought: I can't just say "Hey babe who's (his name), I read his emails to you?"

Here's what I think happened: She was going out with this guy, went abroad to study, met me, fell in lurrve with me, and DID NOT TELL HER BOYFRIEND.

Why? Because although she loves me, she knows it cannot last - I will dump her or we wont be able to be together owing to circumstances of distance and college demands etc, so she keeps this poor fool in the dark, is basically cheating on him, and using him as a "safety net" in case I leave her.

Again: her emails back to him gave NO suggestion that she has any feelings for him or even that he is her boyfriend, so possibly, he's just an ex, or a fool who does not know you can't say "I loove you so much" to her.

Comments??

 

[Last Man Standing]

If she is NOT a virgin assume she is sexing other dudes! Who gave him her e-mail?? She did!! Enough said!

 

[backbreaker]

you need to dump her, on the account that you aren't mature enough to handle this woman in the first place

 

[Obsidian]

who cares if she's emailing some chump?

 

[The_Reaper]

Take a look at what he wrote; these are excerpts:


How can everything be fine when i don't see you for so long time?
Nothing will truly be fine until I am holding you in my arms again.


Everything else is all right, but I am aching for you ALL THE TIME.
I miss you SO MUCH its almost impossible to live.


When there will be somehow, some way, some day, when we are together
again, I am going to lock the door for a week and tickle you until you beg me
to stop,
and then I will just tickle you some more.

So you think I will like your fotos?? Do I like them? Hmmm, let me
think about that......
YES!!!!!!!! You are so sexy that I am kissing your beautiful face on
the computer screen!!!

i hope you are feeling better too. i want to
come and take care of you and give you chicken soup!!

i love you!!!!!


I dream about you a lot. In my dreams, I am kissing you on your neck!
Then you jump into the bed
and disappear under our blanket, so I have to go into the dark to find
you. When I find you, you
are surpised and you have a big smile and we are both laughing, but
then I always wake up and
the dream is finished. I look around my room and realize you're not
really there, that you were only
here in my dream, and my heart misses you so much I want to open the
window and scream your
name!


In my other dream, we are laying on your blanket in the countryside
looking up at the clouds and
there are little baby watermelons in my pockets, but my hands are the
only thing in your pockets!

Love you! )))



Oh I'm so happy you are somewhere, its just very hard that you are NOT here with me.


So I close my eyes and try to see your face in my mind, that makes me feel better. But if you were here, I could open my eyes and see you, and that would feel better than anything I can imagine.

i hope your studies
are going well. do you have some swedish boyfriend? i am jealous!!

 

[Sir Juanalot]

Yeah, why dont you stab yourself in the eyes too, do you enjoy torturing yourself? NEXT....

 

[Michele l'Arcangelo]

wow a guy is sending your girl emails. and she stays neutral... she MUST be cheating.

those damn spammers also... i bet shes cheating on you with those advertisers also.

anyways the dude sounds like a douchebag... literally. thats MUCH worse than most people were before they came to this site.

you should just laugh that shes with you and not him.

if she ends up with him in the end... well... you should laugh for her being such a chump of a woman.

(i was going to say shoot yourself for losing to such a homo)

 

[Rudra]

hehehe... with that bullcrap he won´t get a single millimeter closer to her, this is so uberAFC it should be showcased somewhere... Don´t sweat it, better throw a laughing fit or two... keep us posted, if that guy actually gets anywhere with your chick with that approach, I´ll be off this site forever in a split second )))))))))

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Yeah, why dont you stab yourself in the eyes too, do you enjoy torturing yourself? NEXT....

The world is full of masochists.

 

[The_Reaper]

Torturing myself? Hmmmm. Not exactly.... I think unconsciously I am looking for evidence and justification for dumping her, to assuage my guilt. The only reason I am putting up with long distance is because I am in a busy year in college and simply have no time for a girlfriend or even for proper socialising. I am a Hypocrite - I have said things far worse, far more sexual to other girls recently. I've even been a bastard and cheated twice, once sleeping with a 35 + yr old milf (no bs) and secondly making out with some chick in a nightclub. I have no guilt about it whatsoever. Maybe I come across as a piece of slime now...

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Torturing myself? Hmmmm. Not exactly.... I think unconsciously I am looking for evidence and justification for dumping her, to assuage my guilt...

Alright, so why not conciously make a decision so that you can stop doing whatever you are doing? You can always change your mind later.

 

[sav]

bro, ask her straight up if she's staying loyal to you...

if she tells you bull**** like "you dont trust me.. blah blah blah" tell her its not her you dont trust, its others dont trust... and u need to know that the feelings you two share are not in vein...


stop torturing yourself seriously... i had that thing too where i would look through cellphones (my infamous thread about it) and snoop around and whatever...

what you need to do is watch for obvious signs (her being distant, not as affectionate etc..) but most of all follow ur intiution, because despite what the media portrays, we have ours much more developped then there's

good luck!

 

[MacDiddy]

I have no guilt about it whatsoever. Maybe I come across as a piece of slime now...

Not at all.. You;re a man seizing life by the balls. So what if your GF cheated on you... it was to be expected studying abroad... I don't know why so many just can't accept that fact of life...

I don't condone her actions but us humans aren't perfect. and just coz you cheated, you're right to feel no guilt coz your a man. Now get on with life, make plans and create value...

its just too bad you had to find out about your chicks cheating coz you'll never know if she'll make a good wife coz that will never happen.