A buddy of mine who I hadn't seen in awhile told me the other day that he met a woman a couple months ago at a lingerie club (similar to a strip club but the women do lap dances in lingerie instead of nude) and hit it off extremely well with her. The only problem is that she has 3 girls all between the ages of 8 and 12 but he doesn't seem to mind. Apparently she was married earlier in her life and had the 3 kids with a guy who unfortunately totally vanished after the divorce and he is in jail for not being able to pay child support thus forcing her to dance to make ends meet. I asked him if he is crazy or just in a dating rut but he told me that he sincerely likes this girl and doesn't mind spending money on her and her kids. Thoughts on this situation? Personally, I think my buddy has lost it. Though he says the sex is great, I would never consider a woman like this for anything other than a short fling.
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Would you ever seriously date a woman with 3 kids?
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What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.
You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.
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Bible_Belt
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doesn't mind spending money on her and her kids.
That's what this is about. She is recruiting a new baby-daddy. If she works as a stripper, she knows how to get money out of men. It's ok, as long as your friend knows that this arrangement is just glorified prostitution. Like any 'working girl,' the level of her attraction to him is in direct proportion to the size of his wallet. The problems come when the guy really thinks he's in love.
I wonder how much she had to do with the ex being in jail. Although every state can put deadbeat dads in jail, it's actually kind of rare. There's no way for the dad to ever pay support from jail. She might have gone on the warpath against the ex, persuading the DA and gov't agencies to throw the book at him. If she has a violent hatred for her ex, that is another red flag. The guy had better hope she does not have any dirt on him in case their relationship turns sour.
That's what this is about. She is recruiting a new baby-daddy. If she works as a stripper, she knows how to get money out of men. It's ok, as long as your friend knows that this arrangement is just glorified prostitution. Like any 'working girl,' the level of her attraction to him is in direct proportion to the size of his wallet. The problems come when the guy really thinks he's in love.
I wonder how much she had to do with the ex being in jail. Although every state can put deadbeat dads in jail, it's actually kind of rare. There's no way for the dad to ever pay support from jail. She might have gone on the warpath against the ex, persuading the DA and gov't agencies to throw the book at him. If she has a violent hatred for her ex, that is another red flag. The guy had better hope she does not have any dirt on him in case their relationship turns sour.
Gangster Of Love
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He is practially willing to pay to get attention for a sexual type of woman that he obviously doesn't feel he deserves.steve76 said:
Nothing wrong with a women with 3 kids, yet when you add all that other baggage, and still feel like you have to PAY to get her attention, you are not heading in the right direction.
Interceptor
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I would.
I know a classy woman right now, who has three bright, charming, little boys. Theiy're talented, smart, and gifted. And they take after their mother. Definite class act.
The woman has an amazing personality, is funny , warm,kind, good hearted, has a deep Feminine Grace, and an understated sexuality about her.
I would defintiely go for a classy woman like that even if she happened to have kids.
I know a classy woman right now, who has three bright, charming, little boys. Theiy're talented, smart, and gifted. And they take after their mother. Definite class act.
The woman has an amazing personality, is funny , warm,kind, good hearted, has a deep Feminine Grace, and an understated sexuality about her.
I would defintiely go for a classy woman like that even if she happened to have kids.
jophil28
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"Bestow not your affection nor your baubles on undeserving women -lie not with them for they are not righteous of intent nor pure of heart."
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Jophil 2007.
I would not do that. They're simply too man women with "an amazing personality, is funny , warm,kind, good hearted, has a deep Feminine Grace, and an understated sexuality about her", that doesn't have 3 kids.]
Women are expensive enough. One with 3 kids (that aren't his!)? Is he out of his freakin' mind?
Women are expensive enough. One with 3 kids (that aren't his!)? Is he out of his freakin' mind?
Simple - No !!
I had LTR complete with a blended family thrown in. What a nightmere. If they are not your own kids forget it. It's not worth the effort, wrinkles and grey hair.
You will never win them over, there will be lots a silly arguements and bad feelings.
Ask yourself - is she really worth it, is the sex that good and what the hell I am getting myself into.
Wake up, smell the coffee and cast your rod back into the pond, there are plenty more fish in there.
I had LTR complete with a blended family thrown in. What a nightmere. If they are not your own kids forget it. It's not worth the effort, wrinkles and grey hair.
You will never win them over, there will be lots a silly arguements and bad feelings.
Ask yourself - is she really worth it, is the sex that good and what the hell I am getting myself into.
Wake up, smell the coffee and cast your rod back into the pond, there are plenty more fish in there.
Interceptor
Master Don Juan
Az, you make a good point.
But I didn't necessarily SAY that I would "support" three kids. I'm talking about the woman here.
I see your point though. I do.
But I have the frame of mind that I offer a woman MySelf, not my bank account.
I do like those little rugrats, though. Really bright, warm, and funny.
Still, I'm glad to see you have a whole plethora of women throwing themselves at your feet that meeting those exact criteria. I envy you. I really do.
Hordes of classy, sexy, fun , and giving women throwing themselves at your feet!
Wow. Where do you live, dude?
I'm moving there!
I would have to say that perhaps there is a prevalence of a notion that women who are divorced, and have kids, are beneath us? Like they are all second class citizens and only good for sex? Worthless, throw away human garbage, no? Is this your general perceptions about these "Women", gentlemen?
At least that's what I usually feel when I read opinions on divorced women with kids in this site.
But I didn't necessarily SAY that I would "support" three kids. I'm talking about the woman here.
I see your point though. I do.
But I have the frame of mind that I offer a woman MySelf, not my bank account.
I do like those little rugrats, though. Really bright, warm, and funny.
Still, I'm glad to see you have a whole plethora of women throwing themselves at your feet that meeting those exact criteria. I envy you. I really do.
Hordes of classy, sexy, fun , and giving women throwing themselves at your feet!
Wow. Where do you live, dude?
I'm moving there!
I would have to say that perhaps there is a prevalence of a notion that women who are divorced, and have kids, are beneath us? Like they are all second class citizens and only good for sex? Worthless, throw away human garbage, no? Is this your general perceptions about these "Women", gentlemen?
At least that's what I usually feel when I read opinions on divorced women with kids in this site.
Bonhomme
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If she's after your affection, great, go for her; if she's after your assets, run.
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I have tried it twice ..... both ladies had 3 kids ....
don't think I will try it again, I guess I need more attention than they can provide ....
I don't think they are below us ........ the market value on these chicks is generaly low unless they find someone who is in an absolute rush to have a family ....
it seems a lot of time woman with more than 1 kid ...have kids with different daddies ..... then I start to question their decision making in general ...
just my thought
:rockon:
don't think I will try it again, I guess I need more attention than they can provide ....
I don't think they are below us ........ the market value on these chicks is generaly low unless they find someone who is in an absolute rush to have a family ....
it seems a lot of time woman with more than 1 kid ...have kids with different daddies ..... then I start to question their decision making in general ...
just my thought
:rockon:
Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you say doesn't mean she really is. She might just be acting polite, while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.
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