Worry or forget about her ???

[DonWho]

Sup guys!
New guy here with an important ?. Dating a gorgeous blond, 4 dates already, last date got to 2nd base, next day sent email saying i had a good time at dinner, havent heard from her since. Always would return my emails same day but now its been 5 days. We are definately into each other but could she have changed her mind about me by waiting 5 days? Or what does this indicate? She wants to space things out or just testing me???

Certainly not going to call or send another email because that would be too needy.

Love to hear from both men and women on this. Thanks

 

[iLoveCookies]

Haha I am in the same situation. I dont know about the e-mail thing as a whole but I would also love to know the answer to this?

 

[chevelle]

I don't care what anybody here says about my reply, but i have tons of experience getting the boot. When a girl stops contacting you, it's a very bad sign. It usually means, they met someone else and they do not have the courage to tell you.

I use to think that reading girls was difficult, when in actuality it's rather quite simple. If they are calling you, it's good. If you don't hear from them and your starting to get anxious or worried--it's bad!

I use to be worried about girls feelings and i was a very loyal partner when i dated girls. After being kicked to the curb on several occasssions with no disregard--i started worrying about my feelings and putting myself first.

Good luck my friend!

 

[iLoveCookies]

I don't care what anybody here says about my reply, but i have tons of experience getting the boot. When a girl stops contacting you, it's a very bad sign. It usually means, they met someone else and they do not have the courage to tell you.

I use to think that reading girls was difficult, when in actuality it's rather quite simple. If they are calling you, it's good. If you don't hear from them and your starting to get anxious or worried--it's bad!

I use to be worried about girls feelings and i was a very loyal partner when i dated girls. After being kicked to the curb on several occasssions with no disregard--i started worrying about my feelings and putting myself first.

Good luck my friend!

It looks like both DonWho and I are out of luck. I just think it sucks when someone is not upfront with you.

 

[ProtoMan1]

Hmm.. instead of email, perhaps calling her instead? chevelle makes a great point. After four dates and she does not respond? Well, maybe just wait it out if you are still interested. Any other details you can convey?

 

[flexion_]

If she contacts you she is interested. If she doesn't contact you she isn't interested. Not much more to really say.

 

[DonWho]

Hmm.. instead of email, perhaps calling her instead? chevelle makes a great point. After four dates and she does not respond? Well, maybe just wait it out if you are still interested. Any other details you can convey?

Well, I emailed after the last date and not heard back. Calling at this point would make me look too needy ("Hey i didnt know if you got my last email but just wanted to see how things were" -yada yada). Still interested, yes, but can't look desperate because that will definately screw me.

Are these rules that I should believe?:
1. Gets back to me within 3 days = she's definately still interested.
2. Gets back to me 4-5 days after the email = she's trying to space things
out because she's dating a
bunch of guys or is only
mildly interested.
OR
Is really into me and just playing games by screwing with my head.

3. Doenst get back at all = I wait a week and call her to see whats up with
her.

What works here?

Thanks for the replies.

 

[ProtoMan1]

Well, I emailed after the last date and not heard back. Calling at this point would make me look too needy ("Hey i didnt know if you got my last email but just wanted to see how things were" -yada yada). Still interested, yes, but can't look desperate because that will definately screw me.

Are these rules that I should believe?:
1. Gets back to me within 3 days = she's definately still interested.
2. Gets back to me 4-5 days after the email = she's trying to space things
out because she's dating a
bunch of guys or is only
mildly interested.
OR
Is really into me and just playing games by screwing with my head.

3. Doenst get back at all = I wait a week and call her to see whats up with
her.

What works here?

Thanks for the replies.

Oh, lol. I meant for future reference to call her after the dates instead of emailing her. Generally DJ's don't email/text, only in special circumstances. Well, there really isn't a set rule of X amount of days and if she responds she means this. If she contacts you, she's interested. If she doesn't, it could be a variety of reasons, but generally if she does not contact you, she's not interested.

Say you see her and she does not talk to you, but is aware of your presence, its over. Time to move on. However, if you are looking for a solution? Pretty much, just wait it out and see if she contacts you. If she does not, then after a week call her and act is if nothing happened.

 

[CompleteControl]

She is NOT really into you.

Woman usually don't JUST screw with your head - it only seems that way because you are into them and they are not into you and they don't want to hurt your feelings by telling you so.

You are probably screwed(actually you're not lol). You shouldn't just be "emailng" a girl after 4 dates anyway.

However, try the following:

1. Take a deep breath and relax;

2. Read the DJ bible if you haven't already;

3. Call her about 7 days after the email (just be cool , don't make a big deal out of not hearing from her) and start from scratch building attraction again.

4. If she does not apologize and want to get together - no problem, just move on.

Good Luck!

 

[iLoveCookies]

whats the deal yo?