"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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dacanay

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Hello,

I was wondering if anyone could give me advice on how i could balance my time between me and my girlfriend, coz i have a night shift as a call center agent, which is around 9 hours. Her on the other hand is a college student (Hey, she's older than me, dont get anybad ideas :eek: ) lolz so anyway, Basically i will be working and she will be sleeping, and if she will go to school, i will be asleep. my only day off will be on the weekends.

Iam just worried that we might have a communication gap of something, any insights and opinions are welcome. i thank you in advance :rock:
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Kings_royalty

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Don't sweat it bro, girls like guys who are busy leading their own lives and not constantly up their a$$. I know you've heard the term 'absence makes the heart grow fonder' right?

Make your time together on the weekend fun and exciting and she'll be thinking about you all week.
 

dacanay

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Thanks bro, il Consider that... :)

yea iam pretty much a n00b at ltr tho, all i had were "No-strings-attached" relationships. then when you find the girl you wanna be with.. you dont know much! :) haha oh well. thanks anyway bro

oh and yea,- one thing iam worried about is, she's gonna say "you dont have much time for me anymore.... :( "

typical girl drama..type of things they say when they miss you...
 

Teflon_Mcgee

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Im going through the exact same thing. I work full time and go to school full time. Really the only thing I can do is find a girl who will MAKE time for me.

For instance, one girl I was dating HAD to watch American Idol on one of my only free nights in 2 weeks. Right away I was like, "NEXT." (too bad cause she had everything going on, both mind and body)

If your girl doesn't try to make time for you then I wouldn't even bother. At least if you're interested in building any type of relationship outside of booty.

Luckily the (only) girl I'm dating right now, even though she's a full time senior and works (on a completly opposite schedule of mine) is willing to make certain sacrifices to see me.

That's about the only way it can work is if both people are willing to give up certain things.

Also try to do everyday stuff together. I.E., go grocery shopping together, run errands together, etc...
 

Kings_royalty

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oh and yea,- one thing iam worried about is, she's gonna say "you dont have much time for me anymore.... "

typical girl drama..type of things they say when they miss you...


You WANT this to happen, trust me. Don't look at it as a '$hit test' or 'drama' (like most guys do), instead look at it as an opportunity to amplify her attraction. And remember, if she says this, YOU are in the drivers seat....take advantage of it.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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