"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Women Play Hard to Get & Do they EVER call back?

rjames407

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Hey guys, a simple post and I'm looking for (hopefully) a simple discussion. Met this girl a few months ago through a college group (put in a group of two at random) and I got her number to discuss 'work'. I was too intenso to start with and was naming dates and times over txts (huge error). She said she had a bf...so i left it.

Anyway a few months on i call her and after catching up briefly on the phone she asks me for a coffee! I have now left it a week (incidentally she left me a message on facebook yesterday) and I called her again today but no answer. My question is do women EVER call back or will they always play hard to get? My proposition to take it forward is to maybe text her tomorrow...I have quite a lot of ammo to neg her with so a text should be ok???

Grateful of any advice?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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DonGorgon

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Call her when you have time and ignore her flakyness... Set plans to do something with her... make sure you have other options so you dont obsess over her flaking , even flake on her to see another chick then call and act like nothing happened.. and ask her out again.. women love BS like that...
 

Mavrick

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All women are different. They have different rules that relate to the different levels of self-confidence they have. Your best bet is to leave the games to the children.

Your best bet for this woman is to not let her get to you. Make a date and go out. If she stands you up, it's over. You cannot not let her actions take control of your emotions. You cannot let her define who you are or bring out your worst in you (i.e. desperation, neediness, possessiveness, jealousy, obsession, and controlling).

It's all a test and you pass these test by being unaffected. You do not cling, you do not become desperate, you do not supplicate, you do not buy gifts unless you are rewarding her good deeds.

If she's playing games, it's time to play your own. To not fall prey to her games. To not let them affect you. If she's not acting right or treating you in a manner that you wouldn't treat yourself, then it's time to leave it alone.

Respect yourself and she will respect you. Don't ever be too eager or too willing. Don't bow to her every whim. She should bow to yours because you are the prize and you'll walk away if necessary, and if she isn't, then she has just disqualified herself. You'd be happier without her.

Good luck, Bro.
 

MotownMack

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She may just have a low IL. Most girls will chase a little if the IL is there, some less than others.

Texting is ok for setting up a date maybe, with someone you are familiar with, but don't try DJ sh1t like negging over a text message. Negging could go horribly wrong, and even the other stuff probably just won't be that effective.

FYI- this is a silly little trick on learned on SS actually, but it does seem to work rather well-when you call, don't leave a message. They see you called, they are reminded of you, but are then curious as to why you called and that you didn't bother to state your business. It almost always gets a call back.

I tend to approach a woman's interest level slightly below the interest she gives me. If she seems a little interest, then return with a little interest. If she is close to be aloof, then be aloof back. In other words, if it were me, I would not keep calling her.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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frisco

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Its all about the initial IL if you already have a bad rap with her then shell feel know reason to let you go....
 
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