"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Women Enjoy Revenge, Even If It's Not Theirs

Desdinova

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I had to share this...

Last weekend I went to my usual hangout. I have friends there, and enjoy their company. It's a karaoke place, and it's something I have fun doing.

My most recent ex shows up - the fetish party one. She came with her new boyfriend which she got exclusive with five days after we cut contact. This isn't the first time she showed up since the breakup either. It didn't really phase me since I'm dating someone who's been more fun in the past 3 weeks than she was for the past 5 months. I just continued to enjoy my time with my friends.

The hostess who runs everything is a woman I've known for 15 years. I would have gone out with her back in the day, but I was too much of an AFC to know how to do it. So I missed out. That's fine, she's a cool friend to keep around. I was sitting right beside the sound system along with this other girl (R) that I met recently. She's nice, but not attractive enough for me to pursue.

Anyway, they both know who my ex is. The hostess and R start talking about something, and then look at me smiling. I'm like "WTF are you two planning?" R responded with "Oh don't worry, you'll find out!"

When the hostess called R up to sing, she said "And she's dedicating this song to Desdinova!" A couple of people in the crowd went "Awwwww!!!!" I was blown away that they had planned this, and maybe even a little bit flattered. After R was done singing her mushy song, My ex and her bf got up and left.

Women still amaze me even though I know that they're perfectly capable of stuff like this. They stick their nose into someone else's business and create drama, solely for the sake of getting a reaction out of someone.

As a side note, I'm pretty sure R is interested in me.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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If woman put half of they're brain power into cancer research or something that they put into creating drama or ruining peoples lives. We'd all probably be living a million years.
 
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MisterSisterFister said:
If woman put half of they're brain power into cancer research or something tat they put into creating drama or ruining peoples lives. We'd all probably be living a million years.
lol...yep
 

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Desdinova said:
As a side note, I'm pretty sure R is interested in me.
Unattractive or not, I there this whole incident was your red flag on "R". She'll do that same vindictive sh*t to you if you piss her off. While women are more apt to do this stuff, remember that it's still a self-esteem issue. All women have the competitive instinct IMO with each other, but any decent woman with confidence doesn't consistently do this type of stuff.

I'm really starting to realize that we are just dealing with bad women in general in Western society nowadays. With all this freedom we have, you REALLY have to be on top of your game to survive. True what they say, Freedom isn't Free, for the WW2 generation, or this one. Just a different war.
 

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Nice one... So what song did R pick to dedicate to you?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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that is not new to me, I also dare to say woman love to even watch the revenge happening to someone else, they knowing the person or not like then or not, as long she saw it she already have a gossip to say later.
 

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Unattractive or not, I there this whole incident was your red flag on "R". She'll do that same vindictive sh*t to you if you piss her off.
It wasn't R's idea, it was the hostess who came up with it. R just went along with it.

So if I followed correctly, your ex went there to try and shove it in your face she is with another man. And it completely blew up in her own face.
Yup, pretty much. While I was dating her, I let her know two basic things about me... One is that there's ALWAYS women interested in dating me. The second is that my friends are always watching my back. Those two things came together that night, and she went home without her stupid little trick having any impact or effect.

So what song did R pick to dedicate to you?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f9P9deGViUQ

Kinda odd for a 21 year old to be enjoying this type of music.

Here's another fun fact.... The hostess's husband considers ME to be the greatest threat to their marriage. At one point, he was pressuring her to quit her job, all because of ME :D
 

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Desdinova said:
Here's another fun fact.... The hostess's husband considers ME to be the greatest threat to their marriage. At one point, he was pressuring her to quit her job, all because of ME :D
Not sure that's something to be proud of.
Lol at the choice of song though, sounds like a good choice to get under the ex's skin.
This is why I like your posts, Des, they are usually full of real life examples.
 

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Not sure that's something to be proud of.
It's not like I tried to be a threat to their marriage! I have no intention of stealing her. Her husband considers other guys who come to her shows as a threat, but I'm apparently at the top of the list. I'm guessing it's basically his insecurity built up over the last 10 years or so.
 

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I can definitely relate, although this story isn't really about revenge.

I had a female supervisor who was into me (the feeling wasn't mutual) and she went from being super nice and accommodating to queen b-tch because I wasn't pursuing her.

I came into the office one day and another woman who works there greeted me by saying "it's good to see you." She's always been nice and has a really positive attitude. The queen overheard this and the next thing I know, her and the woman get into an argument but all I end up hearing is "what have I ever done to you?" (the woman was genuinely in shock).

The following week she doesn't work there any more ...

She got the woman fired because of her jealousy, I was actually pretty disturbed by it and was planning on leaving but she ended up leaving for another job first.

Pretty f-cked up thing to do to someone over something so trivial (zero remorse or guilt).
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Mine was on a more simple scale. My ex dumped me beginning of April and branch-swung to some other grumbles. Got it. I had pictures taken of me with hotter women and they got posted to facebook. The look of sadness, doubt and shock when she saw me again in person was priceless. After deleting her of course. Apparently, we ARE NOT allowed to be happy after being dumped. BULL.
 
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