jhonny9546
Master Don Juan
Hi guys, I've always seen this in relationships, but I've never been able to understand it.
It would be so cool to actually understand what's going on here. I hope it would be of help of anyone reading it.
Let's start.
I've seen these relationships, where a woman often complain about their man (be him BF or HB): he's lazy, he doesn't make plans, I find myself doing things alone, I feel like a single mom, you don't get off your ass to do things, he's not organized, etc.
On the other hand, this happens: women say these things, yet they are still there?
In fact... they've been together for a long time. These people are togheter. How many years? 10 or 20 yet.
Now, we go to the second point.
Men in this kind of relationships, fall into this category: they're a little strange, in the sense that their woman might be angry with them because they don't actually do a whole series of things or behave badly, so its like they're lazy for certain things, but at a certain point, at some random moment of the day, the man will make some exaggerated statement, or have an exaggerated reaction as if he'd had a dopamine shot, and he shows he's got organized or just accomplished something.
Example: His circle of friends might organize a dinner out, and then he'll go over to her, very energetic and completely amused, as if the best thing in his life had happened: "You know how wonderful!!? We've made plans tonight, how wonderful! I can't wait! We'll all go out for pizza together."
Usually, this reaction, is truly childish, overly comical.
Now, there are many other examples, but I hope you get the idea.
Now, we go to the third point.
Funny thing is that their woman, who, as we said, calls him lazy, unwilling to get off his ass, etc., etc, etc, now, at this point, after he expresses such vivacity and excitement about the event, laughs, laughs out loud, and seems to change mood from what she thought about him (which is the real man), to what she think this man is gonna be (this vital burst of energy).
Now, the couple seems more at peace, and there won't be any arguments or mood swings for a while.
Now, if we look at it, without knowing the subjects, it really seems like a mother talking to a child, and vice versa.
Son: "Hey mom, look what we got here!!!"
Mom: "Yoo that is soo cute!"
This makes some question arises:
a) How this makes a woman feel in a relationship?
b) What is really happening here?
c) Is this behaviour a normal thing or even something that would be desireable to the eye of a healthy woman?
d) How do women choose to stay in those kind of relationship tell us more a bit about her?
e) She cannot really stop to complain with him, but at the same time appreciating the fact she have to do that in order to feel accomplished helping someone? (Wendy Syndrome?)
It would be so cool to actually understand what's going on here. I hope it would be of help of anyone reading it.
Let's start.
I've seen these relationships, where a woman often complain about their man (be him BF or HB): he's lazy, he doesn't make plans, I find myself doing things alone, I feel like a single mom, you don't get off your ass to do things, he's not organized, etc.
On the other hand, this happens: women say these things, yet they are still there?
In fact... they've been together for a long time. These people are togheter. How many years? 10 or 20 yet.
Now, we go to the second point.
Men in this kind of relationships, fall into this category: they're a little strange, in the sense that their woman might be angry with them because they don't actually do a whole series of things or behave badly, so its like they're lazy for certain things, but at a certain point, at some random moment of the day, the man will make some exaggerated statement, or have an exaggerated reaction as if he'd had a dopamine shot, and he shows he's got organized or just accomplished something.
Example: His circle of friends might organize a dinner out, and then he'll go over to her, very energetic and completely amused, as if the best thing in his life had happened: "You know how wonderful!!? We've made plans tonight, how wonderful! I can't wait! We'll all go out for pizza together."
Usually, this reaction, is truly childish, overly comical.
Now, there are many other examples, but I hope you get the idea.
Now, we go to the third point.
Funny thing is that their woman, who, as we said, calls him lazy, unwilling to get off his ass, etc., etc, etc, now, at this point, after he expresses such vivacity and excitement about the event, laughs, laughs out loud, and seems to change mood from what she thought about him (which is the real man), to what she think this man is gonna be (this vital burst of energy).
Now, the couple seems more at peace, and there won't be any arguments or mood swings for a while.
Now, if we look at it, without knowing the subjects, it really seems like a mother talking to a child, and vice versa.
Son: "Hey mom, look what we got here!!!"
Mom: "Yoo that is soo cute!"
This makes some question arises:
a) How this makes a woman feel in a relationship?
b) What is really happening here?
c) Is this behaviour a normal thing or even something that would be desireable to the eye of a healthy woman?
d) How do women choose to stay in those kind of relationship tell us more a bit about her?
e) She cannot really stop to complain with him, but at the same time appreciating the fact she have to do that in order to feel accomplished helping someone? (Wendy Syndrome?)