"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Women "claiming" you?

PDubb75

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One of my best friends has recently started hanging out with his cousin a lot. So, when we go out to bars, he will often bring her around, and she typically brings some friends. I've now met 5 of her friends in the last 20 days or so, and they are all extremely cute. My friend's cousin is cute, but I would give her the lowest rating out of all of the friends I have met.

I recently found out that my friend's cousin has a thing for me and told one of her friends I talk to, as well as her cousin (my friend), that she wants to fvck me.

I'm fairly certain that getting involved with her is going to ruin any chance I have with any of her friends. Agreed?

But my main question is, even if I don't get involved with her, do I still have no shot with her friends? Would you say that girls tend to "claim" guys they like so that their friends all know not to get involved?

I would prefer any of her friends to her, but if it's a lost cause, I would have no issue fvcking this chick. And before you guys ask, it's not an issue with her being my friend's cousin. I am sure of that.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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PDubb75

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5string said:
Gotta take what's available.

Mount her.

That was my original thinking. But, now that I have a couple different girls I can get it from on a regular basis, I don't want to "settle" with this one. Unless I know her friends are a no-go. Then it's a different story, and sex is sex.

So, are you saying you agree that girls do "claim" guys and she is all that is available?
 

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How do you know you can get the other ones? If you can, do em. If you are not positive, go for the sure thing.
 

PDubb75

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5string said:
How do you know you can get the other ones? If you can, do em. If you are not positive, go for the sure thing.
I didn't mean that I know I can get her other friends. I was saying that I have a couple other FBs right now, so I am fine not settling for this girl if her hotter friends were still a possibility.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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unfortunatley girls will try and claim you and get you taken off the market, but it can be overcome. think about what you would do in the same situation on a cold approach pickup situation. 3 set, your gaming your target and one of her friends try to c.ock block you. what do you do? same thing in both situations. blow it off and continue to game your target. dont give into her attempts to lower your social value. this can actually work to your advantage. continue to keep her attracted to you because she will tell all her friends good things about you, which increases your value. some women will live by the hoes before bros code, however if you play your attraction game well enough, it wont matter. remember women can be vary catty. you can just be honest with the other girls and friend zone her right in front of them.
 

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I don't know man.. I was hooking up with this one girl for about 2 weeks, then a week later her friend kinda seduced me and I hooked up with her haha. The first girl was kinda pissed, but not pissed enough to say anything about it.
 

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Alex DeLarge said:
I don't know man.. I was hooking up with this one girl for about 2 weeks, then a week later her friend kinda seduced me and I hooked up with her haha. The first girl was kinda pissed, but not pissed enough to say anything about it.
That would be ideal, but can't count on that... I was kinda hoping for that with one of my current FBs, but let's just say it caused some issues that weren't worth dealing with for just a FB.
 

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There is no such thing as a woman claiming a man, she can only mark her territory and thats about all considering she hasnt done anything with you yet. I would go for the one with the highest IL and would not chase the best pusy because it can ruin your chances with all of them if not successful. My 02 cents.
 

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Well, a little update that changes everything.

The girl that wants me (who actually had her cousin call me last nigh to tell me she wants to fvck), I just found out is moving to the Bahamas for grad school in a couple weeks. This means 2 things: 1) She won't be around to try to c0ckblock, but also 2) unless my cousin knows her friends, I won't even be hanging out with her friends any more.

Sounds like I just got a free pass to fvck her and still possibly have a chance with another friend, assuming we still hang out with them.

PapiChulo said:
There is no such thing as a woman claiming a man, she can only mark her territory and thats about all considering she hasnt done anything with you yet.
From a guy's perspective, I agree. But if she has trustworthy friends, "marking her territory" might as well be "claiming". If her telling them she wants me is enough to back her friends off, that is what I am referring to, regardless of the terminology used.

Thanks for the input, guys.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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49au

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Golden opportunity. Bang her and then bang her friend after she leaves town. Depending on how masculine of a frame you can establish, it may actually turn her friends on that you slept with her and also want to fvck them.

I was in a similar situation, involving two girls (best friends) from Brazil, both here studying English. They both came back to my place one night. We were all drunk as fvck. The one I wanted passed out in my guest bedroom. I got in bed and a few minutes later, her much less attractive friend comes in and asks if she could lay down.

The next day I straight up told her friend that I wish it had been her in my bed. She told me she liked me but I had slept with her friend, and she didn't want to hurt her feelings. Said it would never happen.

I dropped contact with both girls.

A few weeks later, the friend I banged goes back to Brazil, and guess who I get a booty call from?
 
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