Women are repelled by attractive men with good self-esteem.

[Pumax]

Have any of you experienced women who were clearly attracted to you, but at the same time seemed to think you were "out of their league," too attractive, or otherwise not someone they felt comfortable pursuing for a relationship, just because, for example, maybe she's looking for a guy who constantly validates and chases her, while you're the most attractive guy she'd actually like to be with, but you have that self-respect, you don't chase, so she feel with less power about that.. that makes her insecure to have no power over you.

So instead, she ends up with a less attractive guy who gives her constant attention (or anything else she looking for).

What I've noticed is that, in these situations, they often don't reject you outright because they're still attracted to you.
It's like they want to reject you but they can't maaan..They know they can't, so, instead, they seem to play ego games and put you through endless "**** tests." Sometimes they even do this while they're already in a relationship with someone who constantly chases them, even though they know they find you more attractive. It almost feels as if your confidence and self-respect make them uncomfortable, so they resort to mind games instead.

The biggest thing I've noticed is that whenever other women start showing interest in you, these women suddenly do everything they can to get in the way or pull your attention back to themselves.
In cases like this, it seems as though they're getting validation from their boyfriend or husband while also seeking attention from the men they believe are beyond their reach.

This is one reason why someone once told me to approach genuinely beautiful women, the "9s" and "10s", because, in their opinion, women considered "6s," "7s," or "8s" were more likely to behave this way due to insecurity and a perceived imbalance in attractiveness.

So they say, go for the most beautiful ones and you will not regret.

I think this comes from the idea that there may be something that puts attractive people in a strange position, where they're hated by men who perceive them as a threat, and also by women because they know they can't have the same influence over them that they could have with other men.

Has anyone else experienced something similar?

 

[Solomon]

I think this is what it comes down to: Some women know there are certain men they can’t manipulate or get away with bad behavior around. There are men women can control and then there are men who hold them accountable.

A lot of women don’t like that.
This is part of the reason you see women with “bad boys.” It’s not just the excitement and tingles. Often these women are “bad” themselves. Stable, high self-esteem men are less tolerant of drama, so those women self-select elsewhere.

A second part of it is this: A woman who’s already in a relationship but isn’t getting enough attention and validation from her boyfriend will often seek it elsewhere. That’s why you see women cheating on men who are perceived as “top-notch.”