"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Women and smoking

051AV

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I've talked about this before, but seeing a cute woman that I see around lighting up a cigarette the other day makes me thing fvck me. Then today in the grocery store another cute young woman must have been in her late 20s buying herself a pack of cigarettes.

Don't women know its fvcking gross to smoke, for most guys its a turn off? I see a woman smoke its instant attraction killer I don't want anything to do with them. The young lady I seen today is from out of town I could tell the way she was dressed and the way her BF was dressed. It seemed like she was the boss in the relationship he was trailing behind like a puppy dog.

A woman I work with she smokes I'm constantly on her to quit the damn cigarettes she says she's trying, she's a year older than me 42 she's aged from smoking.

Women think its sexy to smoke? As a guy I've never touched the fvcking things and never will, I will never get involved with a woman that smokes.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Murk

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It's a terrible habit, and each to their own. I smoke and don't mind smokers.

My MO for this year is to find a good clean girl though and so far I've found a decent enough broad, 5'10 and athletic, I like them tall, has a good job, her own place and only 25. A very good distraction for now until summer when I'll be looking to find my next LTR. Is it bad to plan things like that?
 

Von

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why blame women?

50 years ago if you didn't smoke... you werent considered human.

Most smokers do it for 1) social reasons (friends who also smoke) 2) to deal with stress

There is much more pressure on women than their is on men.

This website is a proof of it.

Women have to have a career, be mother, be educated... all that before 30years old.

Yes, smokers are gross.

It's a deal breaker with me. No point in dating smokers.

50% of people smoke. So remove 50% of the pop.

Grow up and don't date the smoking women
 

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Smokers are selfish. They hurt themselves, they hurt the people the spend time with, they are lazy (extra smoke breaks), and they produce the number one source of litter in the world.

I have zero interest in spending time with someone that fits the above, nor should any legitimate man who doesn't enjoy kissing an ashtray.

Instant deal breaker for me.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Lots of woman smoke.

They do tend to frequently go drinking too.

And their frequency 2 have one night stands is also higher then most.

If u r looking just 2 get laid, then don't be fussy abt girls who smokes. They can be very fun and open to all sorts of activities.

With that said; don't be in an LTR with them. Ain't wife or girlfriend material.

Meanwhile hv fun.
 

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Smokers are selfish. They hurt themselves, they hurt the people the spend time with, they are lazy (extra smoke breaks).
Actually, I've seen research saying that smokers usually make better workers. This doesn't surprise me because nicotine is a stimulant. They may go off ona break, but they come back revitalized. Although there are of course lazy smokers.

I used to smoke. Quitting was one of the hardest things I've ever done. Smoking a cigarette is a stress reliever, but the other side of the coin is that the nicotine is a cause of that stress. When you're addicted and time goes by, you get tenser as the nicotine leaves your system and you want to replace it. So you go smoke a cigarette and it relieves that tension. That feels like your stress is relieved, and it is, but it was there because you were addicted..
 

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Soooo glad I quit that habit 12 years ago. Disgusting and expensive. Stupid.
 

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There was a hundred year old man on morning tv the other day. He was miserable. He said life is pain or something like that lol.
Considering all the aches and pains I have now that I didn't have when I was younger, he may be right. I doubt that I'll live to 100 to know if he's right or not. I just can't shake the feeling that if he's miserable at 100, he was probably miserable at 35 too. Some people just don't know how to be happy.
 

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Morning tv is supposed to be this fluffy happy stuff before you go to work, and here's this old guy who was supposed to be promoting a charity or something, and he was bringing everyone down. The presenters didn't know what to do with him :D
I've seen a similar comedy sketch on TV, I don't know if it was a movie, a sitcom, or what. But the bubbly TV hosts had this old woman on, I think to celebrate her 100th birthday, and they kept trying to get something positive out of her, and she was just all like "kill me" lol.

But my point was that maybe there are happy people at 100 too. I don't really know. I'm sure it sux to lose all your sex appeal, but on the other hand I'd probably be saying to myself "I can't believe I've made it this far and I'm still alive". Maybe take enjoyment in simple pleasures, if your health allows.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Some people go to church. Some people watch television. Some people smoke. Personally, I find all three to be unhealthy, but we are all usually victim to at least one of these. I found smoking to be the less of the three evils. It's a matter of preference.
 

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Yuck. Instant turn off for me.
 
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