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Master Don Juan
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Hey everyone, this will be a post explaining my idea behind withdrawing your social contract... I want to first of all make something clear, you will be hated once you step outside of your contract and begin negotiating situations other men would not... An open question, "Whats in it for me?" is a great foot in the door to let the person know who they are dealing with... But understand, this hate you will receive so openly, you receive it anyways from them, the only difference is its not in an open way... Part of the appeal of the Withdrawing of Your Contract are the conflicts that will arise between you and others.
Conflict, is something easily dispelled with people you do not know, however your friends and family should not suffer from the withdrawal of your contract, they came to you BEFORE you withdrew, thus, you owe it to them to keep that relationship the way it is.
Your time, even precious seconds, should be negotiated for; one negotiation should always lead to another, which means always deal fairly and always invest time into negotiating more than anything else... You are not better than anybody, but you WILL get a better deal because you are not bound by Social Contract.
There are times, when you will want to uphold your social contract, maybe its just a primal guttural feeling you cannot ignore, this is fine, you are free to uphold or withdraw at will, do not feel like you are locked into any type of mindset, but rather, look at the benefits of being locked in, before being locked in, this is why the negotiation is so important.
I want to watch the master class on negotiation by Chris Voss, but there are other talks you can find online, all applicable, I would definitely watch.
In closing, I want to say that even though this is my idea, I am by no means putting this into stringent effect into my life, the idea of Withdrawing is actually a pretty simple one, there is not a ton of things us men do for free these days, but anything we do, negotiate it. The actual idea here is negotiating, we are just facilitating that negotiation socially by withdrawing our contract, so this is no longer an expectation of us, but rather, the expectation is prepare to negotiate.
Also, this idea was not born of hatred, but love. Love for myself. Respect myself enough to negotiate on my behalf, rather than just defaulting to what ive been told.
Conflict, is something easily dispelled with people you do not know, however your friends and family should not suffer from the withdrawal of your contract, they came to you BEFORE you withdrew, thus, you owe it to them to keep that relationship the way it is.
Your time, even precious seconds, should be negotiated for; one negotiation should always lead to another, which means always deal fairly and always invest time into negotiating more than anything else... You are not better than anybody, but you WILL get a better deal because you are not bound by Social Contract.
There are times, when you will want to uphold your social contract, maybe its just a primal guttural feeling you cannot ignore, this is fine, you are free to uphold or withdraw at will, do not feel like you are locked into any type of mindset, but rather, look at the benefits of being locked in, before being locked in, this is why the negotiation is so important.
I want to watch the master class on negotiation by Chris Voss, but there are other talks you can find online, all applicable, I would definitely watch.
In closing, I want to say that even though this is my idea, I am by no means putting this into stringent effect into my life, the idea of Withdrawing is actually a pretty simple one, there is not a ton of things us men do for free these days, but anything we do, negotiate it. The actual idea here is negotiating, we are just facilitating that negotiation socially by withdrawing our contract, so this is no longer an expectation of us, but rather, the expectation is prepare to negotiate.
Also, this idea was not born of hatred, but love. Love for myself. Respect myself enough to negotiate on my behalf, rather than just defaulting to what ive been told.