"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Will she give in eventually?

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- met chick a while ago went out once
- started talking with her again and getting sexual
- sent her **** pics
- she says she thinks I **** around a lot because I’m a big guy with a big **** and it’s like being in a candy store for me. She said it seems like you get around a lot...
- she said you must have so many pictures of girls in your phone. Then finally sent me a nude video a few minutes later
- from her gf that I know well, she has never had a Ons the dad is super strict and she doesn’t go to afterparties etc

She wants me to **** her obviously but a girl wanting to **** your and going through with it are two different things. She just got out of a relationship in March...hasn’t had sex since. I am close with her best friend this is not some chick that’s has **** buddies etc. she is usually the one texting me late at night and I’ll play along....but I don’t know if she has the balls to actually meet up with me and **** and at some point this phone texting **** is going to have to end. She is not my main plate but I do want to hit
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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- met chick a while ago went out once
- started talking with her again and getting sexual
- sent her **** pics
- she says she thinks I **** around a lot because I’m a big guy with a big **** and it’s like being in a candy store for me. She said it seems like you get around a lot...
- she said you must have so many pictures of girls in your phone. Then finally sent me a nude video a few minutes later
- from her gf that I know well, she has never had a Ons the dad is super strict and she doesn’t go to afterparties etc

She wants me to **** her obviously but a girl wanting to **** your and going through with it are two different things. She just got out of a relationship in March...hasn’t had sex since. I am close with her best friend this is not some chick that’s has **** buddies etc. she is usually the one texting me late at night and I’ll play along....but I don’t know if she has the balls to actually meet up with me and **** and at some point this phone texting **** is going to have to end. She is not my main plate but I do want to hit
Actions not words. Its very simple, ask her out on another date. You will find out immediately if she is just keeping you in her orbit.
 

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Actions not words. Its very simple, ask her out on another date. You will find out immediately if she is just keeping you in her orbit.
I concur with this^. Ask her out and move relatively quick. Beware of the casting call for orbiters. Nothing new here but worth the reminder; women value attention like we men value sex. Don't give her "hers" unless you are getting "yours".
 

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I concur with this^. Ask her out and move relatively quick. Beware of the casting call for orbiters. Nothing new here but worth the reminder; women value attention like we men value sex. Don't give her "hers" unless you are getting "yours".
Oh she is most definitely using me for validation. I’m
Not naive....But she also asks me questions about myself, hobbies, etc and remembers things I tell her about myself that have nothing to do with boosting her ego. I am having my fun too.

I send her disrespectful texts randomly like “would you ever eat my ass out?” And she’ll Say “I’d rather you **** me anal and call it a day” ..so she is playing along
 

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Update- I am back in the game. I finally got tired of her bull**** teasing and showed up at her house Thursday night at 10pm and told her to come outside. She didn’t come out, but the next day she wanted to hang out and we ended up making out. Not saying this type of crazy behavior will work with every chick but for whatever reason my craziness turned her on.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Update- I am back in the game. I finally got tired of her bull**** teasing and showed up at her house Thursday night at 10pm and told her to come outside. She didn’t come out, but the next day she wanted to hang out and we ended up making out. Not saying this type of crazy behavior will work with every chick but for whatever reason my craziness turned her on.
Did you fvck? Up till you showed up she jerked you around and likely enjoyed it.
 

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If you are waiting for a woman to make up her mind you could be waiting a loooong fvckin time..
lol I was going to say....I'm not really sure in answer to the question but I do know it's probably not worth the time.
 

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If you came to her house and she didn’t come out (assuming she was home), forget that. I would block her left, right, up, down, diagonally, and in dimensions that have not yet been discovered, and never talk to her again.
 

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Update- I am back in the game. I finally got tired of her bull**** teasing and showed up at her house Thursday night at 10pm and told her to come outside. She didn’t come out, but the next day she wanted to hang out and we ended up making out. Not saying this type of crazy behavior will work with every chick but for whatever reason my craziness turned her on.
That’s stalkerish behavior dude. Never show up unannounced. You should’ve called her and asked her out. Anything other than yes than you next her.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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lol I was going to say....I'm not really sure in answer to the question but I do know it's probably not worth the time.
The best thing you can do when your being jerked around or strung along is to ignore her and start fvcking other babes. Some of the other guys have reported that their previous oneitis gains attraction magically and instantly . Like they know ...
 

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The best thing you can do when your being jerked around or strung along is to ignore her and start fvcking other babes. Some of the other guys have reported that their previous oneitis gains attraction magically and instantly . Like they know ...
Absolutely. Why could that be? When they put a guy in the "hell no" category and that guy still chases them, it makes them feel good, like look at this guy I don't have do anything for him and he's willing to fall on the proverbial sword for me. Those guys that withdraw, get **** in order, get other women...when these women see this they think what the ****, esp. if it seems like you have improved and are going places. I've said this before and it remains true in this race women are given the advantages early on because they are blessed with "beauty". Of course men can be handsome as well but women's beauty is more valued....that only lasts for a time, like a beautiful rose...eventually that withers. Guys have to understand and use this to their advantage....if they do what they are supposed to be doing they'll start to pull away once they get into their 30's+. Lots of guys in their 30's-40's date younger women in their 30's. You think a 40 year old woman is gonna be able to have the same control over 20 ish year old guys? Isn't going to happen.
 

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Absolutely. Why could that be? When they put a guy in the "hell no" category and that guy still chases them, it makes them feel good, like look at this guy I don't have do anything for him and he's willing to fall on the proverbial sword for me. Those guys that withdraw, get **** in order, get other women...when these women see this they think what the ****, esp. if it seems like you have improved and are going places. I've said this before and it remains true in this race women are given the advantages early on because they are blessed with "beauty". Of course men can be handsome as well but women's beauty is more valued....that only lasts for a time, like a beautiful rose...eventually that withers. Guys have to understand and use this to their advantage....if they do what they are supposed to be doing they'll start to pull away once they get into their 30's+. Lots of guys in their 30's-40's date younger women in their 30's. You think a 40 year old woman is gonna be able to have the same control over 20 ish year old guys? Isn't going to happen.
You can literally change nothing except now your fvcking pvssy. And no longer chasing anything . It's that simple .
 
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