"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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why so sore?

sadburger

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Hey Guys, finally decided to signup after visiting this site off and on for years... learned a lot from here.

Anyways, I am getting ready to start a serious diet and workout program to bulk up and cut some body fat and get into great shape. I'm really motivated and looking forward to it (going to be putting up a lifting journal in the next week or so once I really get going). I've been going to the gym off an on for a long time, and regularly the last 3-4 months. Mainly chest arms etc, nothing real serious and I didn't have a good program.

So I'm getting ready to do the Starting Strength program and i'm at the end of day five of the anabolic diet. I had to travel this week so I knew tuesday would be my only real day in the gym so I decided to do a routine from starting strength just to get the hang out of... squats bench and deads. I have never really done squats or deads before but I practiced the technique beforehand and was sure to warmup (did warmup sqauts with nothing, then the bar, then 50 on the bar). I did a set with 90 on the bar and thought it might be a bit much to start with so put the 50 back on it. two more sets of 5. Bench went okay, and the deads were fine.

Anyways, three full days later and my thighs are still so freaking sore! Wednesday and thursday I could barely move, walking up stairs was a major pain. What did I do wrong? Is this just a facet of never really working out my legs before? Did I have bad technique? Is it going to be like this everytime? I'm anxious to get on this program but if I'm going to be unable to move for three days after each workout that's not going to work well...
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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donjuanjovi

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Google D.O.M.S., or 'delayed onset muscle soreness'.

It's perfectly normal, especially for a beginner.
 

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sadburger said:
So I'm getting ready to do the Starting Strength program and i'm at the end of day five of the anabolic diet. I had to travel this week so I knew tuesday would be my only real day in the gym so I decided to do a routine from starting strength just to get the hang out of... squats bench and deads. I have never really done squats or deads before but I practiced the technique beforehand and was sure to warmup (did warmup sqauts with nothing, then the bar, then 50 on the bar). I did a set with 90 on the bar and thought it might be a bit much to start with so put the 50 back on it. two more sets of 5. Bench went okay, and the deads were fine.

Anyways, three full days later and my thighs are still so freaking sore! Wednesday and thursday I could barely move, walking up stairs was a major pain. What did I do wrong? Is this just a facet of never really working out my legs before? Did I have bad technique? Is it going to be like this everytime? I'm anxious to get on this program but if I'm going to be unable to move for three days after each workout that's not going to work well...
Retrain your legs. 3x a week as described in starting strength. It will help the soreness go away.

If you never squatted before, yes you will feel it in your legs. Persist, you'll get tough with time.
 

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Thanks everyone... pretty much what I thought, but I wanted to make sure you guys didn't think I had screwed up badly. I worked on technique for awhile before actually starting just so I would have the basics down.

Stronglifts, your blog/page has been really great source of info for me, and got me interested in the anabolic diet. Love the videos and info!
 

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sadburger said:
Thanks everyone... pretty much what I thought, but I wanted to make sure you guys didn't think I had screwed up badly. I worked on technique for awhile before actually starting just so I would have the basics down.

Stronglifts, your blog/page has been really great source of info for me, and got me interested in the anabolic diet. Love the videos and info!
Tnx sadburger. If you have ideas/critiques/questions for the blog, feel free to send them.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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pain and soreness are just weakness leaving the body :up: ... but yea they do hurt like a b!tch when you havent done em in a while.
 

joekerr31

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of course its normal, why do you think they make stuff like A535!
 

lildevil

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I don't need a diet my coach at school is freaking killing my ass.. He makes us run four miles then do crunches ,push ups, and leg ups...One of this days im going to get heat stroke...it wouldn't matter mother****er has no compassion he would throw water
 
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