"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Why Overtly Nice Guys Finish Last...

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http://www.blogmackin.com/2007/08/01/why-women-dont-fall-for-nice-guys/


I have thought about this for years now. Why don’t women fall for nice guys? Is it because they are too friendly, too predictable, not enough of a challenge? I know a beautiful girl named Mary and I asked her if she would date a flat out nice guy… She told me that she wouldn’t give him the time and day… Then, I asked her why and she told me because they are too boring…

The truth of the matter here is you don’t have to be a bad boy to be able to attract women. It comes down to this; you can still be a friendly person but not an overtly nice guy… See there’s a big difference here. A friendly person is cool and laid back but an overtly nice person goes out of their way for people all the time… See when a really nice guy does “nice” things over and over again for women they begin to lose interest. It’s the predictability factor that sets in here…

Most nice guys aren’t able to tap into a woman’s emotions. They think by just buying gifts and taking them out on dates is enough. Well, it’s not… When you do these things your not only doing the same things other guys have done but your also letting the girl know you are really interested in her. I know we have all fallen victim to this.

I remember a time when I was in high school and there was this girl I was really attracted to… I imed her out of the blew instead of actually getting her im, and I also sent her repeated im’s after getting brb… Also, I can remember a time where I took this girl out to Olive Garden right off the bat… I made critical mistakes here… By playing the nice roles, right from the beginning I put myself in the friend zone… No one likes the friend zone!

So now your probably wondering if I can’t be too nice or I don’t want to be a bad ass what should I do? I’ll tell you what works for me… I like to call it the “balancing equation.” I can be nice to a woman when I want to be but at the same time I can also be a bad ass when I need to be. I act depending on the situation and I use my balancing equation when communicating with women… I don’t want then to think o hes a nice guy or o hes a bad ass I want them to think this guy is so unpredictable I don’t get it… I keep women chasing me because of this…

Here are some examples: If I’m really attracted to a girl and I’ve been hanging out with her a few times I’ll take her out on a lunch date… Yeah thats a nice thing but while we are on the date I can be a lil ****y while we are on the date… Saying comments like… ” Yeah that purse is alright with a lil grin haha…” The bottom line is my technique works for me because I am able to act in two different levels the somewhat nice and bad ass approach… Using my technique has helped me attract dozens of beautiful women.

Body language and being able to communicate with women on an emotional and sexual level is the important factor here… When you are able to understand how women think then you will be able to have them come to you. Being just nice to women won’t get you where you need to be… You should mix up different elements to challenge yourself to understand the logic behind attracting women.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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True but if you dont make your intentions clear then you might risk falling into the friend zone. - I'm far from an expert but I think the way I'd do it is similar to your self be a bit ****y and funny, use good body language and indicate verbally that you find her "sexy".

I think if you make your intentions known too quickly (when cold approaching) then you might get a strong rejection, if you dont let her know how you feel, then you'll probably fall into the friend zone.
 

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So he's using the term "Overtly Nice Guy" as a synonym for supplicant. :yawn:
 
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