Why Men Have Given Up On Dating Women

[SW15]

I'd say eventually you develop some instincts that serve you well. You've been there, seen it all, done it all. You can start to recognize the nuances of situations and adjust accordingly.

I have better instincts for interactions now than I had 20 years ago.

There have been situations in more recent times (the last 10 years or so) where I didn't offer 2nd dates. In situations in the past, I was more likely to offer a 2nd date and take a rejection than I am now to have that happen.

I have exited some conversations before the conversation involved a rejection.

A lot of direct rejections can be avoided with instincts and skill.

As relationships go along, there are also opportunities to exit sooner than later and avoid the worst consequences.

 

[Solomon]

I'd say eventually you develop some instincts that serve you well. You've been there, seen it all, done it all. You can start to recognize the nuances of situations and adjust accordingly.

Exactly sometimes you even know if a chick is DTF before it happens,I think the biggest thing that improved is my "Pre-Vetting" before a date. Now I can tell within 72 hours if a woman is worth my time or not whereas when I was younger I was just happy to have a date as an option.

I have better instincts for interactions now than I had 20 years ago.

There have been situations in more recent times (the last 10 years or so) where I didn't offer 2nd dates. In situations in the past, I was more likely to offer a 2nd date and take a rejection than I am now to have that happen.

I have exited some conversations before the conversation involved a rejection.

A lot of direct rejections can be avoided with instincts and skill.

As relationships go along, there are also opportunities to exit sooner than later and avoid the worst consequences.

Totally agree your instincts should be sharp due to experience, and trail and error if you're struggling with that or regressed, than it's time to get to drawing board. You also get a feel of the type of women that like you or that you have a higher chance of being successful with. There are a lot of nuances that you pick up on due to that experience. It's priceless

 

[SW15]

I think the biggest thing that improved is my "Pre-Vetting" before a date.

This is good. I think a lot of men struggle with pre-screening women before dates. I think this problem is the worst in men who primarily arrange dates from swipe apps.

when I was younger I was just happy to have a date as an option.

A lot of men are in that mindset and male thirst has increased in recent decades.

You also get a feel of the type of women that like you or that you have a higher chance of being successful with. There are a lot of nuances that you pick up on due to that experience. It's priceless

I have a great example of this.

I think tall women with slender/athletic physiques are very attractive.

I'm 5'10". I have noticed that as women's heights increase, my probably of seducing them decreases. I don't want to chase outliers. I'm best with women 5'7" and shorter. 5'8"-5'9" is possible for me but going to be difficult. While I am going to be taller than a 5'8"-5'9" woman when she wears flat shoes, she's going to be unhappy in an extended interaction when she wears elevated shoes and is taller than I am.

5'10"+ is probably going to be a no-go.

There are situations where I could be deciding between approaching a 6'0" woman or a 5'5" woman. I'm going to approach the 5'5" woman.

 

[BaronOfHair]

Exactly sometimes you even know if a chick is DTF before it happens...

The Russian accent, her outfit for the evening(a G-string overstuffed with Benjamins), and leading you by the tie into The VIP room are all fairly strong indicators