Why is thinking about women so stressful?

[satelliteparties]

Women give me a headache, and I haven't even had a date since January (unless you count the girl on pof that left after 10 minutes in February (and lied about her age give or take 10 years anyway) or the girl that stood me up in May on pof.) I was put on medicine that completely took away my sex drive as far as masturbating/having sexual dreams and while it has made things easier, it still hasn't helped.

I still think about women way too much despite having a life, a job, keeping myself busy, exercising etc and I don't even know why. I mean, I'm a virgin so it's not like I know what sex is like and have a sex addiction.

I don't even get what the goal or end game is. My brief experience with dating just brought more stress even during the good times with no payoff. So I don't get why my mind is so obsessed with women. It made sense before...my body wanted to reproduce...but now it doesn't make any sense.

Btw this isn't a venting post...I'm wondering why I can't seem to find inner peace and stop concerning myself with women just because they look good.

 

[badboyjmm]

You have to take a break. Focus on other aspect of your life. I was basically in the same phase as you couple weeks ago. I would go out constantly to talk and approach, going for numbers, make-out, 1st date. But you know what...

IT FEEL LIKE WORK ! Clock in - Clock out.

Now I'm going out with friends and they can't understand why I'm so positive and hype (a few drinks helps hehe ) It simply because I'm confident and I know that whatever a girl says to me, it's not important, it's not even personal because she doesn't know me. She just judges my physical aspect,the content of our short conversation and compare it with her surrounding and the response from others guys she's been involved in. So when you think about it, when she rejects you without finding out if you are an awesome person, it's HER loss.

You have to treat "game" like it's the human resources of your company.

-In other to have employees (women) you need to have a description of what type of employees you want and the requirements that they need (you need to know the type of women that you want and what to you want as their personality type).

-You need to send those descriptions to people (you need to approach them and see if they meet YOUR needs. If they are you offer them a contact number so you have them coming for a interview (a date)

-if the interview is successful you have them coming for a 2nd interview (2nd date or you hire them on the spot (make-out, sex)

The reason I used this example is that a manager of a company won't be mad if the interview didn't go well or if the future worker doesn't fill all the requirements. They will just go look for somebody else.

I don't even get what the goal or end game is.

We call this the GAME, because it's suppose to be fun, when you play Call of Duty let's say, even when you lose, you know it's just a game, you still had fun. So you should be feeling the same way about women. Yes, rejection sucks and it a blow to the ego. But you have to let it go and continue playing.

I'm wondering why I can't seem to find inner peace and stop concerning myself with women just because they look good.

i think it's because you feel that you will be complete with a lady by your side... You are already complete ! You have a job, hobbies, friends, dreams. Talk to people just to be social, and you will start to feel confident and when you feel that you are confident enough so that rejection doesn't hurt you as much as now, you will be GOLDEN and girls will BEG to date you.

Women look good, but there's much more to it, if you dig deeper !

 

[Alex DeLarge]

My mind is saturated with women. I don't even want to think about them anymore. All of the stupid stress I've gone through this summer from dating girls who sleep around town, girls who hook up with my friends, good genuine girls who dump me cause the girl who hooked up with my friend wants to hook up with me again, girls that seem interested but would rather stay away because I seem like a player (when im not, just looking for the right girl).. The bvllsh1t is neverending.

I'm a virgin too and have gone on dates/hooked up with 7 different girls this summer. Something just always seems to go wrong whether it be jealousy, disinterest, or some completely shallow factor like I don't have blonde hair or something...

I'm fed up and just focusing on my studies, work, and writing music. I think I would rather have a root canal then put up with more drama BS.