Why is the girl I like stopped talking to me and being silent with me? Please answer!

[redrahul]

One of my friends is a girl that I have known for a few of months and I have been falling in love with her ever since I met her for the second time. She and I used to talk on a regular basis and she was usually very happy to see me and wanted to approach me first, which is how I got her number.

However in the last month or so, she just ignores me sometimes when she walks by and stopped approaching me even if it's obvious she sees me. However, other times when she sees me, she either smiles at me or has straight look. Also, when we do talk (which I start it first), she seems to say a few words to me and it ends right there.

In fact, I know more about her close friends than her and half of them are girls. All of her friends like me as a good and nice friend, but of course not as close as with her.

Also, whenever I try for a hangout, she says that pretty busy. That didn't happen beforehand since we did have a hangout earlier in semester.

We also see each other wherever we go, and it's by coincidence but it's almost like we're meeting up with each other. However, this stopped a couple of weeks ago. I have also noticed that she looks at me sometimes.

She has even started to talk quite a bit with my friends which is nice.

She’s the type of girl tries to keep conversation alive with people she talks to (guys and girls) since she's pretty much having the outgoing and loud type (when I mean loud, I mean pretty loud). I know this is who she really is because even her neighbors (which I'm friends with as well) tell me that she and her roommate and sometimes their friends which come over, always makes alot of noise. However, it seems to be different when it’s just me and her with just this silence.

I really don't know what this means or what I should do, or know anything. Does anyone think that she may like me back, but is waiting for me to make the first move?

It's really bugging me since all of her friends do come and talk to me like everyone else, but she's doing the exact opposite.

Thanks for reading and input!

Also, one more important thing she may already think I like her. That’s at least what my friend told me when my friend was talking with her and she asked that question. My friend of course told her he doesn't know.(However, please keep this in mind that she had already stopped talking to me long before I asked her about it, which is why she might know that I like her. So, please don't mention that ignoring me is one of the signs because she started ignoring me even before she got wind of this!)

I am over 20, never kissed anyone and never had girlfriend before.

 

[Mr. Kalikoat]

She probably friendzoned you hard and when she figured out you like her she started to become distant.

Never be friends with girls you want to be more with than friends. If you want her to be your girlfriend, then that should be your goal and you should be working on achieving that goal, which ain't gonna happen if you're just gonna be friendly with her. By the looks of it you haven't even tried to romantically approach her, have you? You should have.

This girl sounds like a lost cause, so I'd say move on and date other girls. Spin more plates.

Even if there is still hope with this girl, then really, moving on and spinning more plates is the only way you could potentially salvage this situation. Make her come to you. If she doesn't, flirt with her and show her that you like her. If she still doesn't come to you, she's just not interested in you as a boyfriend. In that case; move on.

 

[nismo-4]

She's cold toward you because she has another man who's better than you. Delete her and move on, she already did that to you.

Pretty busy my ass, she wouldn't be pretty busy if Brad Pitt askes her on a date.

Case closed.

 

[Thundernuts]

Yeah man you tried to get her to like you by being friend with her. If you don't let your intentions be known early she will automatically throw you in the friend zone. Honestly all these little run ina. You have been having with her have been killing you especially when u said u start the conversations with her instead of the other way around.

Delete her number and forget about her there is nothing you can do now. I know your not gonna listen but if you continue on this path it will only make you look more and more desperate in her eyes. You need to strike while the iron is hot otherwise you won't get anything. You blew you chance with her over a month ago so move on and start talking to other women.

 

[Skyline]

Oh geez....


When a woman gives off the signals that she's interested, a big one is her approaching you, if she does that then she's usually interested. At this point she was chasing YOU. Women love to chase because its a very emotional experience for them. All you had to do was say yes and escalate. The phone is for setting up dates, when she texts or calls you its a subtle hint that she wants you to set up a date.

However you did not do that because you were acting weak and uncentered.

Because you have had little experience with women, you got way too excited and became really weak as the result. You started to pay attention to her more by talking to her consistently, not setting up dates via the phone when she contacted you, and overall becoming an open book that she can easily pick up. She became your center. You essentially became a woman. Women hate this. They love the chase, they love the mystery, they love how they don't know where you stand, and they love masculine and centered energy.

You became weak and uncentered at the jump of her interest. All of this resulted in her interested dropping. Now she's unsure of her feelings because maybe you were acting like a masculine centered guy before. But now, its like you lied to her.

The phone is for setting up dates, and after the first one you let her contact you. Thats when the chase begins. Don't tell her too much about you, let her do 80% of the talking. When you do go out with her, show her a good enough time so she can't get enough of you. Lastly, don't make her the center of your universe. Do your own passions, walk away from this girl until she contacts you. Realize it could be never.

Lastly, being extremely loud is a key trait of Histrionic Personality Disorder. This disorder is tolerable and is usually caused by divorced or splitting of parents. Tread carefully if you're not equipped.