This post is for the newbies mostly, but also to compare experience with DJs who have tried this.
I recently tried an experiment, to compare results of DJing women in person and to try it via internet personals. The results have drawn me to two conclusions: that personals are the great equalizer in bringing all men down to the lowest common denominator--making AFCs as appealing as DJs, and that women who use the personls on line are people that want to fill their lives with the illusion that they can get dates, because guys will not ask them out in real life. A woman cannot tell if she is getting a quality guy or a chump, and that means she has to choose randomly. The technology messes with the DJ game of the initial attaction.
Any AFC can get something up on an internet site, and make claims that they are the shyt, because it is easy to hide behind the safety of a keyboard. Everyone appears to be the quality applicant, just as people do when they write a resume for a job for which they are barely qualified. You are in the position of setting up a date with someone whom you may or may not have given the time of day.
It is also proof that just because a woman is physically hot she may not be much of anything else. Many women on the personals have no intention whatsoever of bedding anyone they agree to meet, in spite of what they claim. It has more to do with feeding a fragile ego, that they can now get guys falling all over them. If you respond to a persoanl ad, you are setting your self up to be used by an attention wh0re. (To prove my point, I even set up a date and went out with one woman who turned out to be GAY!)
Many women in these cases are emotionally retarded; they act like men and cannot get dates. They are so preoccupied with career or so emotionally unavailable that they have no time to even meet men and have a distorted illusion that if they run a personal that they will somehow have time to date one. Some are bored with their freinds, and rather then do the hard work of changing their life, they turn toward the personals to find AFCs that they can LJBF later on, and build a group of men that will worship her but will never get the p*ssy. These women are lazy and want an AFC who will bow down to them and treat them like a queen, so she can dump him later.
A DJ is at a disadvantage because it is difficult to screen out the undesirable elements. You have to spent the date gaging interest level, when this is the time that is spent *rasing* it. It fvcks with the DJ game. A DJ may be on a date with a woman that has no interest in him, as she has effectively gotten past the screening process. You are allowing your time to be wasted as a result. You have taken a job that takes ten minutes and drawn it out to several days.
In the meantime, I have come to be more relaxed with women I meet in person, from the mere repetion of rejection and focusing on my life. I now have women approaching me and I can now engage them with no stress--a big change from 3 months ago! The women I meet in person are genuinely more interesting and much more dateable and fvckable.
There are no shortcuts to being a DJ; you have to get out there and do the hard work of meeting them, closing on the number and getting the dates. Personals are like going to Vegas to find your retirement; it might happen to one here and there, but it is not a good investement of time, unless you want to shack up with a woman with more baggage then a fogged in airport, one that has mental problems or some other problem you won't find out about until it is too late. This isn't to say that you can't get laid by using the internet personals; it is to say that it is ten times more work and hassle then if you meet women in person.
And it is no substitue for meeting women in person. It did have the advantage of allowing me to burn through women that I didn't like too much to work on my nervousness on the first date, so that I could be more relaxed around women that I really do like and are fvcking hot, but that was the only advantage I can see.
So newbies, beware.
[This message has been edited by chicago#1 (edited 04-22-2002).]
I recently tried an experiment, to compare results of DJing women in person and to try it via internet personals. The results have drawn me to two conclusions: that personals are the great equalizer in bringing all men down to the lowest common denominator--making AFCs as appealing as DJs, and that women who use the personls on line are people that want to fill their lives with the illusion that they can get dates, because guys will not ask them out in real life. A woman cannot tell if she is getting a quality guy or a chump, and that means she has to choose randomly. The technology messes with the DJ game of the initial attaction.
Any AFC can get something up on an internet site, and make claims that they are the shyt, because it is easy to hide behind the safety of a keyboard. Everyone appears to be the quality applicant, just as people do when they write a resume for a job for which they are barely qualified. You are in the position of setting up a date with someone whom you may or may not have given the time of day.
It is also proof that just because a woman is physically hot she may not be much of anything else. Many women on the personals have no intention whatsoever of bedding anyone they agree to meet, in spite of what they claim. It has more to do with feeding a fragile ego, that they can now get guys falling all over them. If you respond to a persoanl ad, you are setting your self up to be used by an attention wh0re. (To prove my point, I even set up a date and went out with one woman who turned out to be GAY!)
Many women in these cases are emotionally retarded; they act like men and cannot get dates. They are so preoccupied with career or so emotionally unavailable that they have no time to even meet men and have a distorted illusion that if they run a personal that they will somehow have time to date one. Some are bored with their freinds, and rather then do the hard work of changing their life, they turn toward the personals to find AFCs that they can LJBF later on, and build a group of men that will worship her but will never get the p*ssy. These women are lazy and want an AFC who will bow down to them and treat them like a queen, so she can dump him later.
A DJ is at a disadvantage because it is difficult to screen out the undesirable elements. You have to spent the date gaging interest level, when this is the time that is spent *rasing* it. It fvcks with the DJ game. A DJ may be on a date with a woman that has no interest in him, as she has effectively gotten past the screening process. You are allowing your time to be wasted as a result. You have taken a job that takes ten minutes and drawn it out to several days.
In the meantime, I have come to be more relaxed with women I meet in person, from the mere repetion of rejection and focusing on my life. I now have women approaching me and I can now engage them with no stress--a big change from 3 months ago! The women I meet in person are genuinely more interesting and much more dateable and fvckable.
There are no shortcuts to being a DJ; you have to get out there and do the hard work of meeting them, closing on the number and getting the dates. Personals are like going to Vegas to find your retirement; it might happen to one here and there, but it is not a good investement of time, unless you want to shack up with a woman with more baggage then a fogged in airport, one that has mental problems or some other problem you won't find out about until it is too late. This isn't to say that you can't get laid by using the internet personals; it is to say that it is ten times more work and hassle then if you meet women in person.
And it is no substitue for meeting women in person. It did have the advantage of allowing me to burn through women that I didn't like too much to work on my nervousness on the first date, so that I could be more relaxed around women that I really do like and are fvcking hot, but that was the only advantage I can see.
So newbies, beware.
[This message has been edited by chicago#1 (edited 04-22-2002).]
