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Why getting a life is one of the best things that could happen to your dating game.

TheCharmingGuy

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At a certain point in many a budding Don Juan’s career as a lady killer, he has become too immersed in the game. The play, the strategy, the upgrading of his arsenal of witty things to say and sexy things to do becomes his lifestyle. His mantra centers around getting the next girl, and the next girl, and the next, until all he thinks about from morning until night is how he is going to achieve his next female prize.

And yet, this guy is at a disadvantage in the dating game. He works for every single one of the women he goes for, handing her all the power and putting himself fully at the mercy of her shutdown. By giving her this immense power, he eliminates her need to commit to anything, and she is able to dispose of him at her leisure.

These men are, at best, simps. They have no life outside of women, no hobbies, interests, other friends, or even interesting stories, because all his stories are about other girls, and nobody wants to hear about them. All he has left to offer a woman is attention, which although all females crave it, is short-lived and the woman will soon move on to another guy.

This man’s fatal mistake was not having a life.

Having interests and hobbies outside of women is essential to attracting them. You must have interests that will cause you to meet women as well. Do you have a dog? Walk it through a neighborhood where other people walk their dogs or exercise. Do you sing? Play the saxophone, perhaps? Have a real interest in spelunking? It doesn’t matter what your other interests are, if you truly enjoy it, women will find that attractive.

One of the things a woman finds the most attractive in a man, sometimes even more than the exalted “confidence” factor, is passion. If a man is passionate about something, the woman will assume that he will also be passionate in other areas of his life (his dating life, for example). So it is crucial that you have a hobby that you actually enjoy. Don’t try to be interesting by doing something you’re not actually good at or interested in. A woman will definitely notice, and flag you as fake.

The best part about this is, if you are living a great life, you will naturally attract women. They do almost all the work for YOU, will approach YOU, and will chase YOU instead of you having to convince them that you have something in common. In fact, if you meet a girl while pursuing your own lifestyle and interests, you already have something in common, which makes it that much easier for you to ask them out (or that much more likely that they will ask you).

Good luck, and may the Don Juan Force be with you!
 

oc16

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At a certain point in many a budding Don Juan’s career as a lady killer, he has become too immersed in the game. The play, the strategy, the upgrading of his arsenal of witty things to say and sexy things to do becomes his lifestyle. His mantra centers around getting the next girl, and the next girl, and the next, until all he thinks about from morning until night is how he is going to achieve his next female prize.

And yet, this guy is at a disadvantage in the dating game. He works for every single one of the women he goes for, handing her all the power and putting himself fully at the mercy of her shutdown. By giving her this immense power, he eliminates her need to commit to anything, and she is able to dispose of him at her leisure.

These men are, at best, simps. They have no life outside of women, no hobbies, interests, other friends, or even interesting stories, because all his stories are about other girls, and nobody wants to hear about them. All he has left to offer a woman is attention, which although all females crave it, is short-lived and the woman will soon move on to another guy.

This man’s fatal mistake was not having a life.

Having interests and hobbies outside of women is essential to attracting them. You must have interests that will cause you to meet women as well. Do you have a dog? Walk it through a neighborhood where other people walk their dogs or exercise. Do you sing? Play the saxophone, perhaps? Have a real interest in spelunking? It doesn’t matter what your other interests are, if you truly enjoy it, women will find that attractive.

One of the things a woman finds the most attractive in a man, sometimes even more than the exalted “confidence” factor, is passion. If a man is passionate about something, the woman will assume that he will also be passionate in other areas of his life (his dating life, for example). So it is crucial that you have a hobby that you actually enjoy. Don’t try to be interesting by doing something you’re not actually good at or interested in. A woman will definitely notice, and flag you as fake.

The best part about this is, if you are living a great life, you will naturally attract women. They do almost all the work for YOU, will approach YOU, and will chase YOU instead of you having to convince them that you have something in common. In fact, if you meet a girl while pursuing your own lifestyle and interests, you already have something in common, which makes it that much easier for you to ask them out (or that much more likely that they will ask you).

Good luck, and may the Don Juan Force be with you!
That's true, but it seems like only certain hobbies or "passions" get women going. One of those of course is playing a musical instrument (e.g. mainly guitar) and cooking. Other ones might be a passion for body art (tattoos) or being a personal trainer.

Not sure if most women will give a damn if you are really into video games and perhaps write a blog about it, are real good at and love to build WW2 plastic models, love birding or really have an interest in foreign languages (How do you show off your passion for languages?) What about a passion for going to museums? (How will women pick up on that?). I am really into physical fitness and took a lot of group fitness classes. I have gotten some dates out of hit here and there, but not much really.

Your post makes sense for sure, but I think those passions are limited, mostly to musical instruments and cooking.
 

Modern Man Advice

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At a certain point in many a budding Don Juan’s career as a lady killer, he has become too immersed in the game. The play, the strategy, the upgrading of his arsenal of witty things to say and sexy things to do becomes his lifestyle. His mantra centers around getting the next girl, and the next girl, and the next, until all he thinks about from morning until night is how he is going to achieve his next female prize.

And yet, this guy is at a disadvantage in the dating game. He works for every single one of the women he goes for, handing her all the power and putting himself fully at the mercy of her shutdown. By giving her this immense power, he eliminates her need to commit to anything, and she is able to dispose of him at her leisure.

These men are, at best, simps. They have no life outside of women, no hobbies, interests, other friends, or even interesting stories, because all his stories are about other girls, and nobody wants to hear about them. All he has left to offer a woman is attention, which although all females crave it, is short-lived and the woman will soon move on to another guy.

This man’s fatal mistake was not having a life.

Having interests and hobbies outside of women is essential to attracting them. You must have interests that will cause you to meet women as well. Do you have a dog? Walk it through a neighborhood where other people walk their dogs or exercise. Do you sing? Play the saxophone, perhaps? Have a real interest in spelunking? It doesn’t matter what your other interests are, if you truly enjoy it, women will find that attractive.

One of the things a woman finds the most attractive in a man, sometimes even more than the exalted “confidence” factor, is passion. If a man is passionate about something, the woman will assume that he will also be passionate in other areas of his life (his dating life, for example). So it is crucial that you have a hobby that you actually enjoy. Don’t try to be interesting by doing something you’re not actually good at or interested in. A woman will definitely notice, and flag you as fake.

The best part about this is, if you are living a great life, you will naturally attract women. They do almost all the work for YOU, will approach YOU, and will chase YOU instead of you having to convince them that you have something in common. In fact, if you meet a girl while pursuing your own lifestyle and interests, you already have something in common, which makes it that much easier for you to ask them out (or that much more likely that they will ask you).

Good luck, and may the Don Juan Force be with you!
Well said!

Note: Just don't "have a life" to attract women but surely you implied that. You have a life for your sake, who GAF who notices or does not. You have a life because it is YOUR life and no one else is going to live it for you. You have a life because you are driving it from the driver's seat and there is much to experience and see. The rest will follow in due time.

Thanks for sharing.

Modern Man Advice
 

TheCharmingGuy

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Well said!

Note: Just don't "have a life" to attract women but surely you implied that. You have a life for your sake, who GAF who notices or does not. You have a life because it is YOUR life and no one else is going to live it for you. You have a life because you are driving it from the driver's seat and there is much to experience and see. The rest will follow in due time.

Thanks for sharing.

Modern Man Advice
Thank you, yes, this is what I was going for. Live your life for you, not women! The women will follow in due course.
 

ThisIsSparta

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At a certain point in many a budding Don Juan’s career as a lady killer, he has become too immersed in the game. The play, the strategy, the upgrading of his arsenal of witty things to say and sexy things to do becomes his lifestyle. His mantra centers around getting the next girl, and the next girl, and the next, until all he thinks about from morning until night is how he is going to achieve his next female prize.

And yet, this guy is at a disadvantage in the dating game. He works for every single one of the women he goes for, handing her all the power and putting himself fully at the mercy of her shutdown. By giving her this immense power, he eliminates her need to commit to anything, and she is able to dispose of him at her leisure.

These men are, at best, simps. They have no life outside of women, no hobbies, interests, other friends, or even interesting stories, because all his stories are about other girls, and nobody wants to hear about them. All he has left to offer a woman is attention, which although all females crave it, is short-lived and the woman will soon move on to another guy.

This man’s fatal mistake was not having a life.

Having interests and hobbies outside of women is essential to attracting them. You must have interests that will cause you to meet women as well. Do you have a dog? Walk it through a neighborhood where other people walk their dogs or exercise. Do you sing? Play the saxophone, perhaps? Have a real interest in spelunking? It doesn’t matter what your other interests are, if you truly enjoy it, women will find that attractive.

One of the things a woman finds the most attractive in a man, sometimes even more than the exalted “confidence” factor, is passion. If a man is passionate about something, the woman will assume that he will also be passionate in other areas of his life (his dating life, for example). So it is crucial that you have a hobby that you actually enjoy. Don’t try to be interesting by doing something you’re not actually good at or interested in. A woman will definitely notice, and flag you as fake.

The best part about this is, if you are living a great life, you will naturally attract women. They do almost all the work for YOU, will approach YOU, and will chase YOU instead of you having to convince them that you have something in common. In fact, if you meet a girl while pursuing your own lifestyle and interests, you already have something in common, which makes it that much easier for you to ask them out (or that much more likely that they will ask you).

Good luck, and may the Don Juan Force be with you!
Good posting!

With a lot of guys here one gets the impression that their life revolves around the procurement of pvssy.

While the quest for pvssy can be seen as hobby, its not supposed to be the sole purpose of a mans existence.

Remember that god made pvssy to complement a mens life, not to rule it.
 

AureliusMaximus

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One of the things a woman finds the most attractive in a man, sometimes even more than the exalted “confidence” factor, is passion.
Does fapping count as a passion? o_O:rofl::lol::cool:

Ha ha lmfao.
Well seriously...
Thanks for the post. I agree. Building your own life is very important.
 

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It would count if you could pull it off during a downhill ski run.

At a bus stop, not so much.
In Brazil a guy jerked off inside a public bus and cvmmed all over one woman. He got away with it because there were no laws that could fit the situation. They created a law just because of this one dude.
 
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